"Deadnaming" isn't just silly, it's more appropriation that is disrespectful to the dead and makes light of the fact that we're all going to die.

Moreover, in typical TRA fashion, it gets things completely backwards: most people want our names to be remembered after we're dead, not to be treated like dirty, shameful secrets that must be erased from the historical record and can never be mentioned in conversation or in print.

One of the worst aspects of losing loved ones is the fact that once the funeral or memorial service is over, many friends, colleagues and acquaintances will go to great lengths to avoid acknowledging or "bringing up" their deaths and to avoid ever mentioning their names.