The problem is when YOUR movement has made it so that transwomen (AKA trans identified males) are to be accepted as women even if they make ZERO effort to pass and are indistinguishable from any regular man, that even if/when a “cis” man decides to pretend to be trans, WE can’t even question it unless we’re are called hateful/transphobic. The problem is when your movement makes it easier for predatory men to take advantage of women, and then when we raise those concerns, you throw us under the bus in order to shut us up.