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[–]BiologyIsReal 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Why does he take so much offense at you "misgendering" people who he doesn't even know? I understand why trans identified people get upset at this even if I don't agree with their reasoning. Though I don't get why an ally like your brother would get so bothered up by this.

Anyway, sorry about this whole situation. I hope you don't get in trouble with your videos. Whatever your brother says, nobody deserves to be fired over this.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

From what he said, it's because "It's not nice". and "It's disrepectful and bigoted" and that "I have to be respectful". And that was when I mentioned that depending on the TIM, if I actually like or have some modicum of respect for a TIM, I would use "They/them" pronouns as I feel that's a reasonable enough middle ground and that's when he exploded on me saying I was being a hateful, asshole bigot. And he did also mention how "It shouldn't matter if they actually are making an effort to look like a woman, especially if they had genital surgery" to which again I said that womanhood is not a costume and that the "Vagina" is not a vagina, just a wound that's trying to close itself..

Anyway, sorry about this whole situation. I hope you don't get in trouble with your videos. Whatever your brother says, nobody deserves to be fired over this.

I really want to believe that I won't lose my job over my videos. It's not like a work for a big company or some office-type place, I just work a front desk job in a gym, nothing glamorous at all. I'm sure my freelance art will take a bit of a hit but I'm sure I'll still be okay. I mean have you heard any stories of people who got fired from simple, every day run of the mill jobs for having opinions that don't align with trans ideology? Because so far the only stories I've heard of this were people who worked in corporate-like places

[–]BiologyIsReal 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think so, but I don't live in an English speaking country and I only know what is published. You're also a man, so they won't target you as badly as if you were a woman. So, I don't think is very likely that you may lose your job. Though it's hard to predict what these people may do: TRA are like religious zealots and there are too many people willing to listen to every demand of them not matter how ridiculous.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh okay. Yeah I tried to look for some stories of men who lost their jobs for refusing to use pronouns and I found 2 stories of this but they were men who worked pretty corporate jobs as one of them was a doctor and the other was a teacher. That's about al I could dig up right now so I think you may be right, I may be okay because again, my job is just menial labor job and even with the 4 obvious TIMs who come into my job, I've never causes a commotion with them.