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[–]just_lesbian_things 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

It's easier said than done, but is it possible for you to find better friends? There doesn't even have to be a falling out, you can slowly move to greener pastures over time. Do you have any hobbies you would like to cultivate? You're influenced by the people around you, and quite frankly, I think you can find better influences than a bunch of ridiculous women who waste their time LARPing and obsessing over identity politics. There are women out there with more substance to their character, I promise.

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (8 children)

I'm an early 20s person in the most liberal city in America, I'm telling you it's not as easy as just finding new friends. Everyone is like this here.

[–]just_lesbian_things 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm in my 20s in a liberal city too, and I found most of my friends online. It's not easy and it's not going to get any easier. Good friends and compatible people are never easy to find. Look into cultivating your hobbies first. Find People who have more meaningful things to say besides what "gender" they currently feel like or what dumb shit they're parroting off social media. Or be okay with being alone. Otherwise, your actions will be dictated by other people always.

[–]Eurowoman24 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

the most liberal city in America ? which one? XD I'm guessing L.A or Toronto

[–]fuckupaddams[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Doesn't really matter which, that's the sitch.

[–]just_lesbian_things 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Toronto is in Canada, right? Maybe San Francisco, NYC, Seattle or Portland?

[–]Eurowoman24 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

yes it is, and those are viable options

[–]1lemon 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

May I suggest joining a church? I understand religion is not for everyone, but it is a good place to build community and make friends.

[–]Finnegan7921 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It is a form of mass hysteria. It is peer contagion brought on by social media creating a sort of hive mind where everyone has to be on the same wavelength or they get ostracized.

It isn't surprising, look at the last four years and how these same groups of people became part of "the resistance", as if the nation had been conquered by some occupying force. They were so noble, fighting for truth and justice, or something. Now that the shoe is on the other foot, and the other side is signaling that it won't just roll over, "the resistance" is declaring such behavior treasonous and that all must bow to them.

[–]JasonNecks 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I also live in the most liberal city in America and I have been fortunate enough to find friends who are on the same page as me politically. And some who aren't but who are open-minded and who I can relate to intellectually. I wish you the same bounty that I have. Stay strong.