What's the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse? The patterns are remarkably similar, but BDSM advocates claim "consent" makes it all okay

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[–]diapason 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

It's disturbing how normalized this is getting. The mainstream seems to have decided that harming another person for your own erotic pleasure is acceptable so long as it's "consentual", but what drives someone to enjoy harming someone who they claim to love? Liberals seem to have no issue acknowledging that professions that allow someone to kill and have it be justifiable, such as police work, attract people with undesirable motives, but seem reticent to acknowledge that a similar thing happens with kink and the BDSM community where men who want to beat and strangle women find a way to do that without consequences. Why? Oh, right, cause when it's men who are harmed by something they'll call it out but when it's women who are harmed they put their blinders on.

[–]Finnegan7921 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

There are also plenty of guys who are into getting beat up during this type of sex as well. I've known a few who loved being dominated by their "mistress" and it included some painful stuff.

[–]jet199 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Not that many because women who want to beat up men are pretty rare.

Usually men still try to play power games even when they are supposed to be subs. I remember I read one dominatrix's blog and she just constantly had problems about how demanding her clients were and how they couldn't do basic things she asked because they didn't take her seriously.

[–]MarkTwainiac 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not all that familiar with this area, but from what I've read about male paraphilias, guys who are into BDSM usually show traits of both sadism and masochism.

[–]CosmicFarmPrisoner 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I reject cultural relativism. BDSM is the contemporary version of wife beating, at least in the US 🙄.

[–]censorshipment 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

BDSM = approved sexual abuse. I give you permission to sexually abuse me so you can ejaculate (on my face/body if you want).

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I saw this posted on Ovarit and thought it was an interesting article.

[–]distortedlinds 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

FINALLY I am so glad someone broke this down, I've been noticing how normalized BDSM tones are on TikTok, an app used for fucking teenagers and young kids.

It's SO disturbing. thanks for sharing this.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I tried to write my own analysis of this issue on another sub but I guess the way I wrote it came off wrong. So I wanted to share something that was written far better.

[–]JasonNecks 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Not a super intellectually rigorous article. Not a bad article either.

If you (yes, you!) want to get really really angry, look up Dylan Hafertepen.

[–]our_team_is_winning 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Dylan Hafertepen

I foolishly looked. I saw the phrase "testicle pumping death" and fled. Beyond sick.

[–]distortedlinds 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

fucking hell. mother of god i am horrified.