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[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I got out of it, I’ve known many women who did. They will come around, but a lot of people are not read to deal with their own traumas and how things are. Many will eventually. People miss out on the fact that it’s not quite as simple as “not like other girls,” they ignore the social aspects, guilt aspects, indoctrination, misogyny, lesbophobia, mental illness, personal trauma, etc. All have to be dealt with depending on the person- (though not to 100%) to be able to move forward* and realize they were trying to protect themselves, or appease someone.

[–]Skipdip 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I appreciate you sharing that. It aligns with my intuition that it is a place for an individual to escape, to avoid processing the trauma of it all. A healer mentor of mine says “if someone says they are not ready to wake up, believe them” Waking up is not for the feint of heart.

It’s interesting you say “to appease someone”. This same mentor friend of mine said “At the end of the day people just want to connect, they will do whatever they feel they need to to accomplish this”.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I will say I have connected with other women who desisted from the gender shit after a period of claiming to be a neo gender. One thing I found pretty common was that some stated not just pressure from homophobic or misogynistic families, but also friends who were overly encouraging and in some cases legitimately threatening for some to disidentify. I see a lot of what I have read echoed throughout my experiences in real life with gender teens/adolescents as well as on social media where the gender shit was strong, and how many are clear cut examples of whatever the concept of ROGD will end up being called once its actually got more research time. The gender shit is a negative force that seeks to consume the insecure, it gives them something to bond over and has legitimate social factors. The threats the lesbian community received over it on individual level sometimes, or at least the forced application of these identities onto some of us- is also pretty telling what the motives of some of these people really are about (control of others).