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[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Indeed. I wonder if the 'hypnosis' elements are just (and excuse my expression) - part of the fun? Nobody is 'actually' hypnotised into dressing like an anime character from a nightmare, but those who are already into that fetish see that as park of the kink?

[–]artetolife 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I suspect the 'hypnosis' appeals to people who are ashamed of their kink and so it allows them to externalise that locus of control.

[–]Skipdip 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I’m curious how you cured yourself? I agree with what you say about exacerbating. But honestly my theory is the same underlying thing drives boys toward paraphillia as does girls to eating disorders: early/developmental trauma, attachment issues and nervous system dysregulation.

[–]artetolife 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wouldn't say cured because the fantasies are still there. But I rarely feel like I need to act on them. I spent a couple of years involved with the fetish community and they are overall not healthy places to be, and I didn't want to become one of those people who can't function in a 'vanilla' relationship.