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[–]artetolife 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I went looking for this sissy hypno stuff a while ago and it's just... stupid. I don't believe (as claimed by some) that anyone stumbles on that and becomes trans, it can only enable and exacerbate a fetish that's already there.

[–]emptiedriver 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

it can only enable and exacerbate a fetish that's already there.

Is anyone claiming that these things force people to become completely different than they would have been otherwise? Everything is enabling and exacerbating. The whole problem is the way the norms of our world push people in directions.

The same way young girls are pushed toward eating disorders or cutting or identifying out of being female, young males can be pushed toward fetishes or identifying as sexualized fantasies. Our weird mental culture has set things up so that too many people are ready to fall into unhealthy escapes or enhancements.

Anyway most people are malleable and if they're pushed in those directions constantly and from a young age, it'll have some amount of impact, which will make it more normal over generations, so the push ends up being powerful over time. "things change", for better or worse, and what is seen as a pretty normal sex scene in today's media would have been taboo a few decades ago - but at the same time, some suggestions, jokes, claims or implications that were normal back then are considered taboo now.

We can all go with the flow, but which direction "the flow" is going has to be chosen by some part of the population. If we want sissy porn to be an accepted part of the sexual norm or if we want it to be seen as a sexist offense is based on how many people react in what way

[–]artetolife 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They are claiming that. Just look at the 'sissy recovery' subreddits and you'll see many of them are still blaming the videos instead of dealing with it in a healthy way. I am a man who 'recovered' from some pretty damaging fetishes, although not sissy stuff, but I speak from experience. Porn makes everything worse but it's not a root cause.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Indeed. I wonder if the 'hypnosis' elements are just (and excuse my expression) - part of the fun? Nobody is 'actually' hypnotised into dressing like an anime character from a nightmare, but those who are already into that fetish see that as park of the kink?

[–]artetolife 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I suspect the 'hypnosis' appeals to people who are ashamed of their kink and so it allows them to externalise that locus of control.

[–]lefterfield 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This. I think this is completely what it's about.

[–]Skipdip 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I’m curious how you cured yourself? I agree with what you say about exacerbating. But honestly my theory is the same underlying thing drives boys toward paraphillia as does girls to eating disorders: early/developmental trauma, attachment issues and nervous system dysregulation.

[–]artetolife 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wouldn't say cured because the fantasies are still there. But I rarely feel like I need to act on them. I spent a couple of years involved with the fetish community and they are overall not healthy places to be, and I didn't want to become one of those people who can't function in a 'vanilla' relationship.

[–]SharpTomorrow 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly.