I don't know if this is the right place for this, but there aren't many options for honesty for women in my circumstances.
My partner came out as trans 3 years ago. It devastated me at the time, then a while later he decided that he sure that he wasn't. Fast forward to now, and he is again. I found out (through a Reddit post to a trans sub) that he bought hormones from overseas and had started taking them when I was 7 months pregnant with our second son. That made it easier for him to go to an informed consent doctor and get a legitimate prescription. They call it gatekeeping when doctors won't let them start transitioning straight away, so they find ways around it.
Throughout this time I have tried to understand. It made me question my femininity, because I'm not one of those stereotypical women they all aspire to be. Why is it that they all want to look cute, have long hair, wear makeup, and sexy feminine clothing? Their "goals" are anime girls, pinups, and models.
There is so much support, validation, and hugboxing for them. The amount of trans subs he follows is almost staggering. All I get is a few online support groups, all telling me that it's not transphobic to have preferences, and that I can leave if I want. I don't know if I will or not. He's a great dad, not really a TRA, just wants to transition.
I still don't understand how this is even a thing. Why did he suddenly decide at 37 that he wanted to be a woman? I wonder if he would have made that realisation if he wasn't depressed and on Reddit looking at fetish subs. The subs like transtimelines, manmadepussy, and postoptrans make it seem like fantasy becoming reality.
I can't accept that TWAW. I can accept wanting to experiment with gender roles, and doing what you want to be happy. I don't wish them harm, they should be able to go about their lives however they want. But I just hate that it's even a thing.
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