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[–]Cicerosolo 33 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 2 fun -  (15 children)

Your ex is an autogynephile.

[–]Anoki[S] 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I knew it , but I did not know the words to put on his behavior now I know

[–]Eurowoman24 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

second that fam

[–]aldoushuxleyghost 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

And has a porn addiction.

[–]Cicerosolo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

No no, porn addiction is such a nebulous, poorly defined term and it reduces a person's culpability around their bad behaviour. All you need to say is this person is an autogynephile which is a fantastically defined term with full culpability.

[–]Anoki[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

It does sounds better , and he is capable of understanding the problem, but does not work to resolve it

[–]Anoki[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A porn addiction , hmm I did not think of that in the first place , for me it was never that

[–]Tikiri 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You did not lose a great friend. You dodged a HUGE bullet!

[–]Anoki[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see that now

[–]jelliknight 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

They're not "nice" though.

It's not nice to say to an adult man who's clearly floundering "Sure! Wear a dress to your job training! Everyone will respect you for it and you won't look ridiculous at all!" It's cruel and selfish.

[–]Anoki[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was saying it in a sense , of disbelief, how could they not tell him it’s wrong , I tried myself but he did not listen

[–]SharpTomorrow 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

it's your ex so you don't need to be around him anymore.

[–]Anoki[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

If he was not a part of my friend group , I could do that , but we have mutual friends and when I see them I see him too , so it’s complicated

[–]SharpTomorrow 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If he was not a part of my friend group , I could do that , but we have mutual friends and when I see them I see him too , so it’s complicated

Well no it's simple. Don't see these "friends" either, make new ones. There is 7 billions people on the planet. If the guy was family, I would understand it's difficult, here it isn't.

[–]fuckupaddams 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Mine too, haha. "nonbinary woman" to be exact.

[–]Anoki[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Even weirder , how can someone be non binary and a women at the same time

[–]fuckupaddams 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

While having a penis at that

[–]Anoki[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s a mindfuck