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[–]yousaythosethings 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I haven't seen Brokeback Mountain, but I agree that coming to terms with your sexual orientation does not excuse cheating. I was married to a man when I realized I was a lesbian, but I never cheated or lied. I ended my marriage respectfully, and I was always open and honest about my feelings of attraction as I felt those feelings. He knew from even before our relationship that I was attracted to women. It was the lack of attraction to men that was harder for me to process.

Anyway, my ex went to a support group for people whose spouses came out as gay and left them and he said he actually couldn't relate at all to the people in the group who were mostly women and there was generally horrific cheating and a lot of deceit involved. He said it made him feel better that his situation was not like that and he respected how I handled it. So yea, he ended up not needing that group and thankfully we are still close friends because we handled the situation like mature adults and good friends.