From personal experience: do NOT allow men to rob your space (in real life or online)

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[–]jelliknight 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Men are like dogs.

If a dog rushes you, never run. Prey runs. If you run you're guaranteeing that they'll chase you. If you get rushed by a dog, stare at it, step towards it, stomp and shout angrily. It will back away. If it doesn't, you're in a great position to kick it in the mouth before it gets to you.

And the more meek you act around that sort of man the more aggressive they get. Instead of cowering and crossing the road you have to look them in the eye and shout back at them. And if they do attack, you've drawn a bunch of attention, made it clear that you intend to fight back, and you're facing them head on.

The point of the initial rush/attack/catcall is to determine if you're an easy target or not. Compliance isn't their goal, it's their greenlight. This goes for abusers too.

Walk tall. It doesn't matter if they are predators, we are not prey.

[–]iloveyou 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That is true. Sexual predators wouldn't target a kid who is very educated and no-frills about sexual education, that kid won't be afraid to come home and tell their parents with concrete words and detail what has happened. That kid has talked to their parents before about what sex and consent is, and they're used to use the right words. A kid who isn't afraid to say "He exposed his penis to me" is much worse target than a kid who is so ashamed and/or uninformed that they are afraid to bring it up. Those may think it was their fault, those may think twice, thrice, four and five times and for years ahead that it's easier to hide than to talk about it. Good prey is too afraid to say the words.

[–]jelliknight 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And consider a kid who's been taught to obey or 'be nice' vs a kid who's been taught that you're allowed to leave and come home any time someone makes you feel uncomfortable and when you feel like you're in danger you're allowed to shout, kick and break things.

[–]vitunrotta[S] 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

we are not prey

PREACH.