Context: This person said JKR was transphobic because she'd have "trans people thrown out of women's shelters." We went back and forth for a bit and it ended like this.
They said:
people are also abused by their parents. So no elderly or middle aged women in the shelters either? Just because a person was abused by a man does not give them the right to say a trans woman should not have the same rights as a woman. Shelters are being trained to turn away trans people, people who pay taxes so these shelters don’t have to. Also the woman you are referencing who tried to get it shut down, was trying to be a counselor. She was trying to help and got turned away because of who she was and things she couldn’t change.
I said:
Your comparison with parents doesn't line up, sadly. Shelters are for protection from violence. People are abused by their parents when they're kids. Kids DO get allocated safe spaces in shelters when it's possible and there are also kids-only shelters. Because they are vulnerable around adults.
A women's shelter turning away middle-aged or elderly women because they're "parental age" doesn't make sense, because middle-aged people aren't significantly stronger or more violent than younger adults.
Can a grown man go to a center for street children and say "You have no right not to let me stay here, just because you feel unsafe around me. This is my right!"? No.
It doesn't matter if that man trying to get into the street kid's shelter paid his taxes. That shelter is not for him. My taxes pay for the public zoo but I'm not trying to live there either.
The fact that the VRR shut down was arranged by someone who wants to be a counsellor is even more terrifying. One moment this person wants to help rape survivors, the next they'll try to get the whole center shut down? Does that person sound like they care about rape survivors to you? "These women don't want to tell me about the worst day of their lives, and instead of being an adult and looking for another place that wants my skills, I'll try to take their entire safe space away from them." is that a healthy way to think? I wouldn't want counseling from that person.
You say "so it isn't about women's rights or helping them" but it is. Keeping female only spaces alive helps women at their most vulnerable.
I agree that trans people obviously need help with homelessness, mental health, abuse etc. But I'll ask again - why isn't the huge mission of trans activists to create these resources? To build these spaces?
Why is the focus always on planting a flag in spaces and resources that women built for women? And then vilifying those women for defending them?
Women are allowed to have boundaries. Women are allowed to say no. It's not bigoted to fight for women's rights. Misogynist men have been calling that 'misandry' for hundreds of years and it hasn't stuck. Now it's called 'transphobia' and that won't stick either. Women's rights are human rights.
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