I do go out sometimes without shaving. Usually because it takes too long, and my kids are really needy (they are 3 and 1 year old). I do get some funny looks, but no one has made a comment to me in a long time. When it did happen, I would just pretend not to hear it and keep going about my business. People love to judge others, especially based on looks. It hurts at first, but eventually you don't even notice it. The "haters gonna hate" mentality does wonders haha!

Shaving can definitely be scary. And it's easy for me to say "don't do it, you'll be fine", because I don't know anything about you. But I do think you should try working on your confidence. Practice how you might react if someone says "ugh, look over there, she didn't shave".

I understand your feelings about not fitting in. I think a lot of people feel that way, especially when they're teenagers. Your whole body is changing and you feel like a stranger to yourself. But honestly, the only things you need to do to fit in are follow the laws, and like, not kill anyone lol. Just be a good person, and nobody will be mad about what you wear, what hobbies you like, etc. The way I see it, nobody has to "fit in" in the adult, working world. Everyone is so busy with their own lives that most people will leave everyone else alone :)

Cooking is one of those things that is so important to learn, that if you meet someone who can't cook, it's a deal breaker! I agree that it's usually women who cook for the family, but think about the loads of male celebrity chefs in the world. I doubt anyone is trying to convince Gordon Ramsey that "cooking is for women" lol. If you like cooking, then like it because you are good at it, or you enjoy how it makes you feel, not because "it's a woman thing".

Fashion is such a weird thing, because everyone has their own tastes. Yet the fashion industry is built around people liking the same things and buying them. I've never liked fashion, and my own style is really tame. And especially now that I stay home with my daughters, I mostly wear sweatpants and t-shirts most days! But I do like wearing dresses and nicer clothes when the occasion calls for it. I don't think that's "conforming to femininity" if you actually enjoy it. If someone forced you to wear skirts and dresses? Then yes obviously. But if you enjoy it, then I think it's fine! That's your preference and no one should shame you for it.

Sorry for the loooong reply, but I hope this help! Feel free to send me a private message if you want to keep talking or vent some more :)