I think the reason why attention seems to be put on the effeminate men is because in some places it is considered socially accept to violently beat them like in places like Iran. Like when I was reading about homosexuality in Iran, I read that homosexual sex between men is punishable by death but with Lesbians, they don't receive the death penalty but they do get lashings...

Not all homosexual sex acts between men are punishable by death in Iran under it's Shariah-compliant criminal code. Only sodomy (penetration of anus or mouth by penis) is. Other male sex acts - hand jobs, naked humping without penetration, frottage (humping with clothes or coverings on) - are punishable by 100 lashes. 100 lashes is the same punishment that women get for engaging in lesbian sex (which the code defines as "homosexuality of women by genitals.") Two men kissing each other in a lustful way is punishable by 60 lashes.

Also, sodomy committed by homosexual males who are minors in Iran is punishable by 74 lashes, not death. Significantly, however, there's no talk in the Iranian code of lesbian sex amongst minors, probably coz the legal age of majority and sexual maturity in Iran is different for males and females: boys are adults and thus able to marry/have sex at 15-plus a few months; for girls the age when they can be married off by their fathers and forced to have PIV sex with their husbands is currently 8-plus a few months.

(Yet girls are still subjected to huge amounts of CSA in Iran, coz Shia clerics long have decreed it's perfectly legal and acceptable for men to rub their penises on the vulvas and between the thighs of a girl of any age, even a tiny infant, so long as the men don't penetrate the child vaginally in a way that will cause permanent injury. But it doesn't seem to have occurred to any clerics that two little girls age 8 or under might engage in genital exploration or touching, which is how the Iran code defines lesbian sex; hence, acts of lesbian sex for minor-age females aren't expressly prohibited - the topic is not mentioned at all.)

Another point to keep in mind about Iran is that to be convicted of prohibited homosexual acts there, the acts must be "proved by the testimony of four righteous men who might have observed it." Which is a pretty high bar, but also a standard wide open for abuse.

If you looked into male violence against girls and women in countries like India, Pakistan and Iran, I think you'll find it's totally socially acceptable amongst vast swathes of those societies for males to violently beat, rape, harass, menace and even murder girls and women just for being female. I'm sorry that in countries like Iran, Pakistan and India it is, as you say, "considered socially accept(able) to violently beat" effeminate (gay) men. However, just by virtue of them being men, they have much, much higher status - and are subjected to far less violence - than girls and women in those countries. Though caste and religion complicates matters in a country like India, just as race does in places like the US and South Africa, generally speaking in most countries the lowest status male will be higher in the pecking order than the majority of females.

What's more, in India and Pakistan the Hijra are often feared as much as they are subjected to violence. A fair number of them commit criminal acts like menacing, harassment, robbery and assault against others - so they're often given a wide berth. Plus, in Pakistan and India they are pretty well organized politically nowadays, and are obtaining rights, protections and positions that females don't necessarily have.

In Iran, India and Pakistan and a number of other countries, it's also common for family members - fathers, brothers, uncles, sometimes with a mother's involvement too - to murder their daughters, sisters, nieces, wives for bringing "dishonor" on the family. Honor killings are always committed against females, never against males. In Iran, honor killings of female family members often go entirely unpunished, or get relatively light sentences.

Iran's Islamic Penal Code says that men who kill other men who aren't members of their families can get death, and they also can get death for killing a girl or woman who is neither their wife nor a blood relative. But Article 220 of Iran's Islamic Penal Code stipulates that fathers and grandfathers cannot be sentenced to death for killing a child or grandchild; the maximum sentence is 10 years.

This past June, there were three particularly grisly honor killings of young female persons in Iran that made international news. In one, a farmer beheaded his 14-year-old daughter with a sickle:

https://www.csmonitor.com/World/Middle-East/2020/0623/How-outrage-over-killing-of-Iranian-girl-is-helping-women-s-rights

BTW, the father in that case got a relatively long sentence for an honor killing - nine years - coz the Iranian government, under intense pressure from criticism by human rights groups, wanted to set a harsh example. In the past, he most likely would have gotten three years.

At the same time, women in Iran recently have been given prison sentences of as long as 24 years for removing their hijab in public.

In another Iranian honor killing in June, "an 18-year-old pregnant woman was forced to consume aluminum phosphide by her father and brothers in what human rights activists have deemed a brutal honor killing":

https://www.foxnews.com/world/iran-honor-killings-social-media

In Iran, it is not illegal for males to commit domestic violence against their wives, children, other female relatives or their household servants or workers. Such acts are considered "private family matters" not subject to government stricture.

Honor killings of females by their male relatives are commonplace in India and Pakistan too:

https://www.cnn.com/2020/05/18/asia/pakistan-honor-killing-hnk-intl/index.html

What's more, in India and Pakistan, female fetuses are being aborted on an industrial scale simply coz they're female. Also common is the practice of killing female children early in life by such means as suffocation, strangulation, starvation, and abandoning them so they can die of exposure to the elements or at the hands someone else:

a large number of the abortions that happen in India are performed because the fetus is female. Last year, an Indian government report found that about 63 million women were statistically “missing” from the country’s population due to a societal preference for male children. And this problem does not just stem from sex-selective abortion. The report noted that another 21 million girls were considered “unwanted” by their families, who continue to have children until a son is born. Roughly 239,000 girls under the age of 5 died in India every year between 2000 and 2005 due to gender-based neglect, according to a 2018 study.

https://foreignpolicy.com/2019/08/15/a-generation-of-girls-is-missing-in-india/

https://metro.co.uk/2018/05/01/hundreds-of-dead-baby-girls-have-been-found-in-pakistani-rubbish-dumps-7512995/