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[–]yousaythosethings 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

To be fair, this relationship is queer in the most literal sense of the world and I would be delighted if "queer" was limited to describing dumpster fire relationships like this and that they would leave gays and bisexuals out of it.

Sadly, it sounds like your friend is a codependent identity void, and she needs just as much counseling as he does. Women with a reasonable amount of self-esteem and/or a reasonably healthy mind do not react to situations like the way your friend is. As a codependent, she will be lifelong prey to the personality-disordered, mentally ill, and men with other addictions. Unfortunately she will also contribute to making all of their conditions worse too. So buckle up, because you will see this play out over and over again.

Have you noticed other codependent patterns with her?

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    [–]slushpilot 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    That's codependency though. They are preying on each other and feeding on each other's unique insecurities.