Are we conditioned to ignore sexism?

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[–]jelliknight 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Is there something we can DO to fight back on this?

Be a pushy bitch. Say "I just said that", and "Thanks for repeating my idea for me". Be willing to cut people off if thats what they're doing to you, then just keep talking LOUDER AND MORE FIRMLY WHILE MAKING DIRECT EYE CONTACT until they yield and then talk normally again. Talk more often, don't wait and see if someone else wants to. If you're thinking something and there's a gap, throw it in. Doesn't matter if it's good or not.

You'd think it gets you treated badly but IME it gets you treated with respect. They might call you names behind your back, though.

Who cares if you're over reacting? Being assertive pays off regardless. If you are overcompensating then you end up being a leader. It seems like you're doing all the work anyway, fuck em, might as well grab the reigns.

In the hidden figures movie I got annoyed because they show Katherine as a shrinking violet waiting for the white man to save her. She gets shut out of a meeting and sulks in the hallway until he calls her in. In reality, to hear her tell it, she shoved her way through the door, picked up someone elses books and moved them out of the way and took a seat. They said "You can't be in here" and she said "It's my work. I'm staying." they said said "X was sitting there" she said "Well, I'm sitting here now." Boom. If you want to get ahead you're going to have to be a boss ass bitch.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The funny thing is, in my personal life(with family), it's easy for me to act like a bitch haha. But at work, I'm a people pleaser but now...I'm getting fed up and people don't like it when I start opening my mouth. My bosses are ALL men(with one TiM) and I got tattled on for the most stupid shit (ex. "PeachEater isn't taking phone calls like we are!!" like no shit, the bosses have me working this retarded projects AND I'm helping other people too) and got talked to, when there are male coworkers who are terrible at the job and hardly fucking show up to work or take excessively long breaks.

Anyways...I plan on leaving the job whenever I can. I will slowly fade from the project. If I want to be a jerk, I could delete ALL of the things I worked on from the computer and they can do it themself lol.