Parent in /r/parenting is just so proud of 6yo for coming out as trans. Many of the comments are surprisingly sane.

submitted by Feather from self.GenderCritical

https://reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/ij4npe/mommy_im_actually_a_girl/

There are a lot crazy comments, but the disagreement in the comments was strong enough to get the thread locked. It's not a circle jerk.

I'm glad to see a good amount of parents resisting this. The sane comments - many of them near the top - are great.

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[–][deleted] 54 insightful - 4 fun54 insightful - 3 fun55 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

It's very telling that the woman replying to the top comment had to clarify "I am not saying there is no such thing as being transgender" after describing almost every FTM story to the letter and ending it with "Do I feel like a woman? I don't know. I don't know what being a woman feels like. I don't know what being a man feels like either. I feel like me."

Almost like some nebulous gender identity is actual bullshit after all. And they know it's bullshit. They know being trans in the sense of "I have an innate gender identity that doesn't match my sex" that they all claim is not fucking real.

[–]LasagnaRossa 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I guess she had to say it because otherwise she would have been harassed by woke people. It's pretty clear she doesn't believe in gender identity.

[–]BEB 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Are you the Vulvamort on Twitter? @HairyleggdHarpy?

If so, I've been reading your tweets since you had a relatively few followers and have told SAIDITers to follow you. You are fantastic! And funny!

Hey everyone on Twitter, follow @HairyLeggdHarpy (and her followers) - she's full of information and spunk!

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not! Sorry for the confusion. I saw the name and thought it was funny so when I deleted my reddit account I remade it with this new name lol. But she sounds amazing!

[–]buttbuttinator 32 insightful - 9 fun32 insightful - 8 fun33 insightful - 9 fun -  (25 children)

Had to burn this whole thread down because some of y'all are hateful idiots.

If only there was some sort of tool that would allow us to see the "hateful" comments that you had to remove so we could judge for ourselves https://www.removeddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/ij4npe/mommy_im_actually_a_girl/

[–]TarshishJupiter 41 insightful - 1 fun41 insightful - 0 fun42 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Wow, the comments that were removed for being "transphobic" are so telling. NONE of them were hateful to trans people, yet they were still removed for advocating waiting and caution. I hope that the mother at least got to read most of them before they were removed.

[–]JoeDzhugashvili 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And it’s shit like this that is why I said fuck being nice

Obviously if being kind can still be transphobia then fuck everything and fuck treating grown ass kiddie diddlers like fragile children

[–]hufflepuff-poet 34 insightful - 2 fun34 insightful - 1 fun35 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

One of the "hateful transphobic" comments:

Please just know that the majority of gender dysphoric boys grow up to be gay men and resolve their dysphoria, and it is is much more rare to become transsexual. Sometimes the feminine interests doesn’t always mean transgender, but homosexual. There is nothing wrong with being transgender or gay - just please keep an open mind that it may not explicitly mean that your child is definitely going to be and stay a girl - and being a gay male is just as valid. I hope that you are able to find a therapist that is not just going to push the gender issue alone and but is also aware of and will discuss and legitimize other gender nonconforming possibilities. I know you’re dealing with a lot of controversial comments here - there is still a lot of scientific debate on if encouraging gender transition before puberty is in the best interest of the child psychologically or physically.

Apparently pointing out that most gnc boys grow up to be gay men not trans is an awful transphobic attack 🙄 and another comment asking for sources on the affirmation model being better than watchful waiting was also removed.... for asking for sources to help parents make an informed decision before putting their kids on the road to life altering drugs and surgeries

[–]buttbuttinator 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most gender dysphoric children grow up to be gay / lesbian and resolve their dysphoria

Those are the new fourteen words apparently.

[–]LeyMio 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wonder how many leftists would still try to understand TRAs after being accused as "transphobic" just for being considerate and supportive to trans people. You can never reason with insane people.

[–]ArthnoldManacatsaman 17 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 3 fun -  (15 children)

This is... Orwellian. It's not the government, sure, but there's definitely a memory hole.but is it a neovagina?

[–]BEB 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

The US government is doing it too. Congressman Ted Lieu has put forward a bill the Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2019 that would ban "gender identity conversion therapy." This act would very much hinder parents from stopping their minor child from transitioning.

Another congressman has put forward an opposing bill "Protecting Children from Experimentation Act"

I actually put all this in another political action post. If you're American - PLEASE ACT NOW

Americans, please call this congressman's (Doug LaMalfa) office and express support for two bill, HR 8012, which would stop minors from being transitioned!

His second bill is End Taxpayer Funding of Gender Experimentation Act, which would protect taxpayers’ conscience by prohibiting federal funding for gender reassignment surgeries and treatments. I cannot find a bill number.

Last year, Ted Lieu, Democrat of California, put forward a bill the “Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act” that would greatly hinder parents' ability to stop their kid from transitioning, so make sure to call his office too.

Also, call the Democrats on the House Judiciary Committee and express your support for HR 8012 and objection to HR 3570.

Especially call Jerry Nadler (Chairman) and Pramila Jayapal of the Judiciary Committee.

Lieu, Nadler and Jayapal all showed their contempt for women and our rights during the Equality Act hearings last year.

NO to HR 3570 the Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2019

YES to HR 8012 Protecting Children from Experimentation Act

YES to End Taxpayer Funding of Gender Experimentation Act (if you don’t want to fund transitioning)

Doug LaMalfa (202)225-3076

Jerry Nadler (202)225-5635

Ted Lieu (202) 225-3976

Pramila Jayapal (202)225-3106

It’s also VERY important to call your own House representative and express your support for HR 8012, support for End Taxpayer Funding of Gender Experimentation Act and your NO to HR 3570

If you are NOT a Republican, please tell these politicians' offices, because the trans activist cult has managed to convince politicians that everyone who cares about the transitioning of children is conservative.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

Ugh, of course the entire Democrat Scream Team is knee-deep in this. And yes, Jayapal is an utterly foul, deeply homophobic woman.

[–]BEB 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

Pramila Jayapal is a piece of work. The arrogance with which she dismissed the concerns of actual women, in favor of her son who wants to wear a dress.. So Pramila Jayapal wants to tear down the work of women far braver than herself who fought to secure safety and privacy for women, for her own family's desires. Nepotism - just like Trump.

And then there's Ted Lieu, who was already on the Trans Train when he was a member of the California STATE legislature. IIRC Ted Lieu put forward a similar gender identity conversion ban when he was in the CA state legislature. But, if not, Lieu put forward some very trans activist friendly legislation around 2012, so well before most people had any idea about transgender activism.

It just hit me that Jayapal is from India and Lieu is from Taiwan. India is deeply misogynistic, as is China, but I'm not sure about Taiwan?

This is why when my friends say vote Democrat because they care about women, I just shake my head. Trump is horrible and I fear what he will turn the US into if he wins, or cheats, and this lot of Republicans is the worst I've seen in a long life - they don't give a crap about anyone but the uber-wealthy, but some of the Democrats are also true misogynists.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Not that I normally enjoy displays of chauvinism, but watching Tom Hohman (former DHS acting secretary, or whatever) remind her in that Congressional hearing that "I'm a taxpayer, you work for ME!" and the look on her face...hahahaha you can tell she's a bit of a control freak between those kind of exchanges and the way she handles her (obviously gay, not trans) son.

Agreed Trump is a total piece of work, but as the nuclear options, that's a feature, not a bug. I call it the Dorian Grey strategy - force the left to look at what they themselves have become and perhaps they'll die of fright.

[–]BEB 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I just read that Michael Cohen, Trump's former henchman, is warning that Trump will start a war to stay in power.

Trump said about nuclear weapons something like, "Why have them if you're not going to use them." so maybe Trump will be the literal NUCLEAR option.

I've struggled with this coming election since I learned of the Democrat-backed Equality Act, and especially after learning that Biden's foundation was partnered with Gender Spectrum, an organization that goes into schools trying to convince kids they are gender specials.

But now, after truly agonizing, I think that Trump is just too crazy and dangerous and we have to get Biden in, after which we burn the Democratic party and its misogyny down.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Trump is just too crazy and dangerous

For all the BLM faux-concern and posturing from the left out there, there is one graph that will tell you a much more powerful anecdote about who Black life and Black dignity matter to:

https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/LNS14000006

Trump may be rough around the edges, but the mainstream media paint you their picture of Dorian Grey rather than just reporting objectively (Exhibit A: "Russiagate" turning out to be entirely fabricated as a stall tactic). At least Trump's intentions are straightforward and worn on his sleeve.

The bigger issue is the critical theory takeover of public institutions, including but not limited to Reddit, that are intent on brainwashing the public via mantras like "Trans Women Are Women" until these become normalized, at which point they'll criminalize anyone stating that 2+2=4

[–]BEB 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I actually have dealt with Trump twice before he became president. The first time was decades ago.

He was, and still is, a rich-boy, financial failure, playboy, mob-connected, carnival barking, sexual assaulting, grifter.

And Donnie is dumb as a post, but very cunning. And funny. And malignant.

And completely, completely amoral, which is how he got people to flock to his parties.

Donald Trump is also the original Post-Modernist, as in, he creates his own reality. Remember when he moved the hurricane with his marker?

I am completely against what the Democrats and the Far Left are doing in terms of gender ideology and all the post-modernist clap-trap.

But Trump too is a post-Modernist and right now he seems to be playing brinksmanship with Russia, and according to his former henchman, Michael Cohen, would launch a war to save his own skin.

Trump has attacked everything from food and air safety standards to the Constitution and the Bill of Rights.

He's threatening to round up journalists and opponents.

He's threatening not to leave the White House if he loses.

He's trying to incite a race war.

He gave the relief money meant for Americans to corporations.

I have lived in Banana Republics and have no doubt that Trump will make the US into a Banana Republic should he get re-elected, or even if he isn't re-elected and tries to launch a coup.

The Democrats are in the clutch of some kind of madness right now, but they still can be reasoned with. Trump cannot.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

also - I would take anything coming out of Michael Cohen's mouth with a grain of salt, since he's sure to be disbarred at this point and as such I'd assume he's grasping at whatever strings possible for a new career

[–]BEB 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I don't need to take anything out of Cohen's mouth to be pretty sure that Trump would start a war to save his own skin. He assassinated Solemani for gawd's sake to try to goad Iran into war.

Trump doesn't even need to deliberately start a war - he doesn't read his briefings so he could accidentally BLUNDER into a war.

I knew that China was having an outbreak of a very frightening mystery disease in January, and yet it took Trump, a man with the most access to sensitive intelligence reports in the world, after months of denial, until July to even wear a mask and he still hasn't done what he should to keep Americans, especially health care workers safe.

If Trump had ramped up production of personal protective equipment when he was advised as to what was happening in China, if he had worn a mask as an example, close to 200,000 Americans would not be dead. Some would have died, but nowhere near that number.

He's a showman, that's it. He's all smoke and mirrors. He was tied to Russian banks and the New York/ New Jersey mobsters. The slimiest man who ever lived, Roy Cohn, was his mentor.

A completely immoral/amoral former reality show star, complete business failure, who blustered and cheated his entire life after being given an incredible start by his con artist, KKK-affiliated father.

Woody Guthrie wrote a song about Donald's father -that's how notorious Fred Trump was.

The second time I dealt with Trump was not THAT long ago but long before he ran for president, and again, he was a showman/grifter out for himself. He has no love for the US. No respect for the Constitution.

And if you don't care about that, Donald Trump has made our food so unsafe I would not eat any kind of meat, and boil your vegetable really well too.

Are we better off today than we were four years ago? The buck stops with the president of the United States, and he has failed like he has his entire life.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

? Trump has literally made it a cornerstone of his presidency to extract the US from all foreign wars as quickly as possible and return to economic (bloodless) warfare e.g. Section 232 tariffs against China, renegotiating of trade deals.

Really. He was just nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize this morning. Genuinely curious why you think this.

As for COVID, he suspended all travel from China and Europe and likely stemmed the tide. As for the deaths - over half are in NYC and California, with both Newsom and Cuomo consistently making it a point to decline any aid offered by Trump. In related news, the CDC revised its death counts two weeks ago to say only ~9600 people died from COVID-19 alone. The vast majority of deaths were elderly (again in PA, NY, NJ, all states which forced nursing homes to accept convalescing COVID patients in the sole exception of the 14-day quarantine period mandated on exposure for the rest of the country.

What more would you have had Trump do to respond? He invoked the Defense Production Act to assure medical devices and vaccines could move through the pipelines as quickly as possible.

It's a novel pathogen. What do you think you can reasonably expect in terms of a federal government response (regardless of which side the administration aligns with)? If there was a simple answer this shit would have been over 4 months ago.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are we better off today than we were four years ago?

Black Americans were, at least, before the pandemic. Under the Trump admin, the Black unemployment rate receded under 6% for the first time EVER since the Federal Reserve started tracking by race in 1972.

https://fred.stlouisfed.org/series/LNS14000006

speaking personally - I, too, am much better off even now than I was 4 years ago.

[–]TarshishJupiter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

is this all in California?

[–]BEB 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

These acts are both in the US House of Representatives, so, if you're American, please call your own Congressional representative, as well as the representatives listed (LaMalfa, Lieu, Nadler, Jayapal)

The two Congressional representatives who put forward the competing bills are both from California. Ted Lieu is a Democrat representing a California district in the US House of Representatives, and Doug LaMalfa is a Republican representing another California district.

Jerry Nadler, the misogynist piece of shit, is a Democrat from New York and the Chairman of the House Judiciary Committee.

Pramila Jayapal, a Democrat from Washington state on the House Judiciary Committee, pats herself on the back for being one of the most liberal members of Congress, but she's a self-hating woman with a gay son who she wants to trans because in the country she's from, India, gay men are forced to transition.

And Jayapal is willing to destroy women's rights so that her son "can" wear a dress.

But don't believe me, watch Pramila Jayapal treat GC speakers like shit at the House Judiciary hearings on the Equality Act and start crying at the idea that her son can finally wear a dress in public. It's on YouTube search for "Jayapal" "Equality Act" "hearing" "Judiciary Committee"

I seriously dislike this woman. I know that sounds harsh, but Jayapal comes from a country, India, where misogyny is incredibly deep-seated, and gay men are forced to become a third-sex type category and dress like women.

So Jayapal gets to America, establishes herself as a Progressive, and then does all she can to destroy the hard work of generations of American women's fight for rights, because of her own internalized misogyny and homophobia. And then is applauded for her "courage."

If you're in Jayapal's district, make her staff's life miserable and expose her hypocritical misogyny and homophobia to all and sundry.

NO on Lieu's bill HR 3570 the Therapeutic Fraud Prevention Act of 2019

YES to HR 8012 Protecting Children from Experimentation Act

[–]LasagnaRossa 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

70% of comments removed, that's awful.

By the way, why didn't they keep them? I can recognize hate speech when I hear one. Do they think people are too stupid to understand?

They KNOW TRAs ideology doesn't make sense, therefore their only defense is to censor everything that goes against the narrative.

[–]buttbuttinator 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

By the way, why didn't they keep them? I can recognize hate speech when I hear one. Do they think people are too stupid to understand?

Yes

[–]Feather[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you. A lot of those deleted comments were still up when I posted the link.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

95% of that page is red. Gives me hope.

[–]Penguinberri 34 insightful - 3 fun34 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"hey look at my socially acceptable munchhausens-by-proxy! Shower me with praise as I use my child as a tool for gaining attention"

[–]emptiedriver 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Even just the idea that the parent is taking seriously allowing a child to change their name to "Star" seems silly to me. Like, even if it were a daughter who was named Susan but wanted to become "Star" from now on, it seems like that's fine if you want to let her tell her friends to call her by a new nickname or whatever, but to officially ask the school and correct other parents and take seriously the idea of renaming your child "Star" ..?

I dunno, not that that's a big deal, but somehow it just accentuates the childishness of the whole thing to me. Just let the kid play around and if they want to have their friends use a nickname fine. But at this age, it's just bath time and personalities - if the kid wants to be "girly" fine, but what makes him a girl? Maybe it's not important now, but not worth causing confusion over.

[–]lefterfield 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I understand what you're saying. It gives children way too much power over adult choices and the actions of those around them. Kinda reminds me of back when I used to work in a daycare - one day a dad brought his sniffling three year old in. She was wearing two mismatched LEFT shoes because, in his words "it's what she wanted to wear." I rolled my eyes a bit, waited till he left, and put two matching shoes on her that were appropriate for playing(the mismatched ones weren't). Yes, she threw a fit, but when I didn't react, she forgot about it a couple minutes later... like kids do. The trans stuff seems to be giving parents the same sort of opt-out option for actual parenting. Children don't know really know what they want, and far too often what they claim to want is dangerous or otherwise harmful. That's why adults should be, y'know, adults.

[–]BEB 24 insightful - 3 fun24 insightful - 2 fun25 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

This is so true. I feel like kids are way too indulged these days. When I was a child in the US, my experience and that of many of my contemporaries were that we were the planets to our parents sun.

Our parents made sure that we were clothed, bathed (on our own as soon as possible), that we did our homework, got to school on time, bu then....

We ate dinner together as a family, they'd drop us off at practice if needed (or we'd walk or ride our bike) - but then, they left us alone to live their lives and let us take risks and learn how to live ours. We had a tremendous amount of freedom as kids. Our parents loved us, but they were off at cocktail parties and taking art classes, and having fun living their lives too.

Then I see younger friends with their kids and their lives outside of work revolve around their kids. EVERYTHING is an event. Every soccer practice is treated like the Olympics. Every piano practice like Carnegie Hall.

And I don't think it's healthy. It's way too much pressure on the kids, and they are micro-managed so much that they never learn to think for themselves, much less take the risks they need in order to learn.

Plus, they grow up thinking that they're the center of the universe, so everything that doesn't validate that is abuse. The real world will be full of abuse and these kids are going to have to deal, but I really don't think some of them will.

And this whole transgender push is, ultimately, for many girls, a way to try to escape from their physical reality, which we can't - we have to fight to make it better for women, not live in fantasy bubble that, at the end of the day, the real world will not validate.

Lecture over.

[–]suzyquattrosshoes 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My brother (in his early 40s) recently flipped on our mom, as apparently he was a “latch-key kid”. Our mom had a career in healthcare. She loved her work, which paid for us to live (very well by the way). If she wasn’t home, an aunt or uncle or babysitter or parent was, total fabrication

when we were kids, she was late for dinner once or twice and hadn’t gone shopping (probably made up for it with pizza). Apparently my brother starved of neglect. (No chance)

She missed a baseball practice or two (likely there was an emergency); my brother was again “neglected”. Bullshit, she was there every Saturday, for his practice AND the other brother’s.

And yes, we hung out with kids in the neighborhood (did also have structured extracurricular activities), and our mom had friends. God forbid.

She didn’t stare at us every minute like he and his (younger) girlfriend do with their kid, which they can do thanks to their unemployment. He thinks he’s the pinnacle of parenting, and his girlfriend, who didn’t finish highschool, is the world’s best mother, because she bakes.

He actually tore into our 70 y/o mother with these pathetic and ridiculous lies, which he sincerely believes. I have no words for this person.

She asked him to get out.

He called her the next week wanting her “advice” on a ring for his girlfriend. No apology.

AND, he blackmails her with his kids.

Fucking tool. He’s very stupid and silly, and of course he’s reproducing.

[–]lefterfield 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ugh, that's so rude. I can acknowledge that not everything my mom did to raise me was 100% perfect, but also that she did her absolute best as a fallible human. And that despite the fact that I theoretically had a father for most of my childhood, I maintain she is the ONLY parent who raised me. Things I never realized as a child was that she was the only one who worked for 90% of their marriage(at a really good job), and still did almost all of the parenting and put herself through grad school just because she wanted to. I was a latchkey kid too, and sometimes wanted to be homeschooled or otherwise have had more from either parent - but as an adult I realized that it wasn't an option and that the life my mom led was the only choice she had, largely because of me and my brother. And she never complained or made it seem like we were ever a burden to her(her husband, on the other hand...) and I can only respect the hell out of her for that. Your brother sounds like he's still very childish.

[–]BEB 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hope that your mother can see through your brother's bullshit. Every parent I know feels guilt, and the bottom line is that most parents do the best they can with the knowledge they have. Parenting is the world's toughest job. Your child might not turn out as you wanted, but that's not necessarily your fault. I think we should be easier on our parents and on ourselves, because really, truly, no one is perfect.

[–]Feather[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You probably should have let her wear the wrong shoes. Wearing the wrong shoes is uncomfortable. You denied her the minor suffering of wearing wrong shoes.

It's the same thing as why parents should advise kids not to play in the snow in a t-shirt but then let their kids do it anyway if their kids insist; their kids need to learn through literal physical experience that sometimes the results of their choices feel bad.

You make the kid wear a coat and they learn that parents make kids wear coats. You go, "Okay, if you insist on not wearing a coat, go ahead," and they learn that they were wrong to ignore you because they feel horrible and cold. One of the most important aspects of parenting in the younger years is letting them learn that ignoring your advice leads to results that feel bad.

It leads them to trust your judgment later on, since they have an entire library of memories about how it was a mistake to ignore your advice.

[–]lefterfield 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That's a different philosophy on parenting, and while I don't disagree with it in theory, in some cases it's better to just tell the child what they need to do at that time. My other concern about the shoes was that they were very sparkly and the sort of thing that leads to other children being jealous and wanting special treatment too - I didn't need to deal with that from 10 toddlers. When it's just one it's easier to let them make bad choices.

[–]Feather[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hadn't thought of that point about one kid vs a bunch of kids. Makes sense.

[–]Femaleisnthateful 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

People need to move past the verbiage of 'being trans', it convolutes the discussion. Transition is something you do, not something you are. An identity is a social construction. The high rates of natural desistance and the phenomenon of ROGD clearly indicates that 'trans' identities are neither innate nor immutable. I find that no one who talks about 'being trans' is able to define what that means. There is a lot of discussion of whether a child is 'really trans' or not, but no explanation of what that means. How does it differ from the top commenter's experience of insisting that they were a boy during childhood? Were people who socially or medically transitioned and then desist/ detransition 'really trans'?

[–]materialrealityplz 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I hate even more when they 'trans' historical people. Cause 'trans' as the concept we have now didn't exist then, and even now, people can't define it.

[–]Finnegan7921 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Her name is Star"....of course it fucking is. Why wouldn't it be ? The kid was brainwashed after reading a book by a kid named Jazz. The delusions of these people never ceases to astound.

[–]Cass 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's a bad mom. Insane.

[–]jjdub7Gay Male Guest Commentator 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's from a brand new account, only that post. Definitely a TRA spreading propaganda, not even close to an actual anecdote. Spotting leftist rhetoric has become second nature in the last 4 years and this one was particularly amateur.

[–]Cicerosolo 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I thank the lord my wife is Asian and Asians have an innate resistance to this stuff

[–]MangoBloom 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I’m convinced that these parents wanted their kid to be the opposite sex but found a PC way to reach that goal lol

[–]33799 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

One of the deleted comments said "And it's honest to tell a kid they can be a girl if they want." Uhh, no it's not. You can't become a girl, you can only become a heavily-medicated cross-dressing man with an open wound that smells like poop.

People shouldn't show kids the Jazz book without informing them of the reality of Jazz today but that wouldn't be appropriate or something they could understand... hmm... I find it interesting how the OP claimed they showed their kid things about how it's ok to be a boy and like dresses and unicorns or whatever and yet the kid still decides to want to be a girl... but maybe it's fake like jjdub7 said.

[–]Spicylikegumbo 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What happened to the term crossdresser? Your kid is simply a crossdresser not another sex. These damn idiots.