maybe don’t mention the penis. It’s just my opinion but I think that might really hurt her but you know her better. It’s something that wouldn’t keep you there even if she got the SRS.

Nobody can say you are transphobic for breaking up with her since you were willing to date her knowing in the first place. It’s nobody’s business unless you want it to be anyway.

Just tell her that it just isn’t working for you anymore. You just don’t click and don’t see it going in the direction you want it to

Life is hard but if she can’t handle a breakup that is even more reason not to attach your cart to this horse. She probably can btw

My abusive high school boyfriend threatened to kill himself if I broke up w him. (I was suddenly brave bc I was across the state). I told him I certainly didn’t see a future and kids with someone too weak to handle life and that if he was going to kill himself over a hs breakup then it was just a matter of time before he offed himself for some other reason. I didn’t think he meant it. I’m not proud I said it though but he stopped using that one.

I really do wonder if she isn’t manipulating you in some way you may not see till later. Disrespect to your sheets by wiping with them. Knowing showering is important to you but making you ask. Covertly guilting you into staying and you feel like it’s coming from within you, etc