r/GenderCynical can’t believe that a woman would *gasp* be sad that her husband is now trans!

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[–]Literallyawoman 39 insightful - 1 fun39 insightful - 0 fun40 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If you're ever in a mood to feel real depressed check out r/mypartneristrans it's 99% women being told their feelings don't matter and that they have to stay with and put their trans husbands wants and desires before their own. Just post after post of women being hurt, sad, and disgusted and being told over time they will condition themselves to ignore their feelings and "love" their transwoman partners despite their changing genitalia and franklyusually becoming drama queen assholes.

The relationships are SO toxic on there!

[–]Comatoast 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'll choose the depression by proxy option. In a world where people leave their spouse over the most ridiculous bullshit, staying with someone who is a detriment to your own mental, sexual and financial wellbeing shouldn't be on your priority list. It's starting to sound like a prenup might not be a bad idea for most spouses in instances like this, where your entire shared savings and kid's college funds can be pissed through for the sake of chasing pipe dreams.

[–]missdaisycan 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is truly insightful. "Bad faith coming out" clauses should be standard in prenups; prenups should become common place. Infuriating that the person who enters (marriage) a legal partnership in good faith is the one expected to cater to the partner who, for whatever excuse/fear, did not.

Why have individual self awareness, personal responsibility and acceptance of consequences, been discarded and belittled? All hail the male toddler behavior?

[–]CastleHoward 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I went to r/mypartneristrans and I am so sad but yet so irritated. I had issues with my ex-husband but if he had said he was a woman I would have instantly walked. This is why we need women's spaces.

[–]our_team_is_winning 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

My version:

Husband: Honey, guess what? I'm a woman too. We can be lesbians now.

Wife: We can file the paperwork in the morning. In six months the divorce will be finalized. Until then, please at least sleep in another room and minimize contact with me. If possible, go ahead and move into your new home elsewhere.

Now in the case of CHILDREN, dang.... IF we would please recognize AGP as a mental disorder, custody and even visitation could be denied. Think of the damage to a child seeing daddy in drag. A father's sexual fetishes should NEVER be played out in front of his underage children (not that adult children want to know either).

[–]leaveandletleave 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is what peaked me, realizing a friend was willing to put his two <10-year-old sons through seeing him transition and needing to change what they called him. After he told me misogyny doesn’t exist. I feel for his poor (supportive) wife.

[–]our_team_is_winning 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

a friend was willing to put his two <10-year-old sons through seeing him transition and needing to change what they called him

Child abuse. Messing with their heads, their boundaries, teaching them an "alternate reality" -- Sexual fetishes have no place in healthy parenting. The wife needs to get her children out of that situation. What's terrifying is we have a legal system keeping them there. What was that Jeffrey Tambor series "Transparent" -- trying to brainwash people that this is normal. It's not.

I remember decades ago (and looking back, this seems highly inappropriate for the teacher to have asked!) in high school a teacher asked whose parents were divorced -- I think it was some sort of social studies lesson -- and I was the only one in a class of at least twenty whose hand did not go up. I was so shocked. (And not saying my parents didn't have problems!) Now I suspect teachers will ask how many have parents who are trans -- and those students will get extra credit no doubt!

[–]Comatoast 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My BIGGEST concern in the case of having children alongside AGP is how far does it go? Are there instances or will there be of AGP trans that target their own daughter's clothing and personal feminine products? If the wife isn't available within the support system for them, will that "responsibility" now pass onto female children? Will they be inserting themselves into spaces where her friends are? With boys, dad is supposed to be a role model. When their father has transitioned, what the fuck does that do to that role model system boys can have with their fathers?

[–]MsTig0 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also, it's a fetish that wants an audience. They want to be SEEN as women. They force the children to be part of that audience. I read Christine Benvenuto's book about her AGP husband who transitioned - he would have their three kids for visitation every other weekend after their separation. He'd sit their boys on the sofa in front of the tv and go and spend one on one time with their daughter in his bedroom. He'd force the poor girl to play dress up and do hair and jewellery because, as he said, he never got to have his "girlhood" so he'd just experience it through her.

And.. a friend of mine was pregnant when her husband "came out as a girl". It's apparently quite common. She told him she didn't want to see him in "girl mode" and his first comment was "but I can dress up when I'm babysitting, right?" SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THAT.

[–]our_team_is_winning 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

He'd force the poor girl to play dress up and do hair and jewellery because, as he said, he never got to have his "girlhood" so he'd just experience it through her.

This obsession with "Girlhood" just shows the overlap between TiM and Pedo. What is misfiring in these men's brains?