Hey gal- this is a blessing in disguise. You can date a person for years and think you know them and it still won’t work out. What’s important is that you aren’t in a relationship anymore with someone whos core values don’t match your own, who is literally not the person you started dating 3 years ago. You’re a lesbian and that’s wonderful! Honor yourself by knowing whatever she is she isn’t for you.

As of this day her health and well being are no longer your emotional burden. Like you said she’s an adult and she alone is responsible for her choices. You will go through a chemical withdrawal of sorts not seeing her but it WILL pass and you WILL get over her.

Distance is SO important right now as is talking to people who support you.

My advice? You are not her emotional crutch in the future if she starts trying to emotionally guilt you into comforting or validating her! You need space-she has her genderspecial friends and is not your responsibly. That means not responding to texts where she acts crazy, needy, angry, or depressed. Not your responsibly.

Now is the time to busy yourself with hobbies, small goals you can set for your own personal growth, and lots of self-love.

You deserve a good woman and you know this is for the best! She was well on her way to making your relationship a living hell of social posturing and catering to her sudden trans desire over you and the relationship, trust me, I've seen it happen. The women who get trapped with suddenly trans partners become a prop and an emotional punching bag.

You deserve a real woman who is stable and builds you up. And being single is a BLAST you will be loving it! It’s all about you exploring new interests, experiences, having a healthy routine, and learning more about yourself now.