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[–]fuckingsealions 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Hey. 25 years ago I wanted to bail out of being a woman too. Fortunately no one was around to offer to cut my tits off or cinch me up in the equivalent of a Victorian corset. Do you hear how I'm saying this? This shit is medieval. Do not do this to yourself.

Being a woman sucks a lot of the time. Ask yourself WHY? What makes it suck? Is it YOU? NO. You're fine. Society is messed up. It sinks into your head like odorless gas, all the messaging about what men and women are supposed to be. Being gay is not easy. Being a woman is not easy.

Give it time and you'll get used to it. You can go into the world and meet some people who are like you, and you'll feel better. You'll get older and I promise you you will feel less like you're under a microscope. You can be any kind of woman you want. You don't have to mutilate yourself.

People almost never regret the marriage they called off that they had a bad feeling about, the face tattoo they didn't get, the time they didn't drive drunk. It's ok that you want to be in a little cave right now away from the pressure you feel. Just give yourself time and see who you actually are. You can always make changes later.

This is going to sound smurfy, but it's normal to fucking YEARN at your age. It's part of growing up. You're supposed to want changes, to grow into someone different. It feels horrible, like you want to scream and explode. Use that energy to improve yourself if you can. Read, learn an art or craft, talk to different people, plan your future. Don't plan elective surgery.

Do yourself the favor of checking out detrans stories. Check out Irreversible Damage if you can get it. A lot of women have done things to themselves that they cannot come back from. Just give yourself time to finish baking, ok?