Just curious, I have a cool, new friend that we have a LOT in common(similar traditional cultural upbringing that had sexist roles, same interests, certain perspectives,etc), however, she believes in pansexuality, non-binary, and that trans people are the sex they claim to be.
Was wondering if others had/have friends as so?
I peaked YEARS ago when I left home at an early age and explored on my own, that's also when I detransitioned. Furthermore, I realized how sexist the TRA movement really is! But everywhere around me, people say it's "okay" and I felt like I was going crazy. That's when I found GC on reddit and lurked for years.
Anyhow...Before peaking, I wanted to transition, I had extreme body dysphoria. I was a TiF who got bullied in school for being a masculine looking girl and got confused as a boy often, so I thought maybe I should be a boy for real. I realized that I didn't need to conform to be "normal"...
I haven't had much discussions about these GC points with said friend. I did mention one time about not agreeing with children transitioning but friend was a bit offended, and she pretty much said it's not hurting anybody and "how can we say how they feel?". Then I specified that I meant medical transitioning the young is wrong(even though I'm against all transitioning, but I wanted to see what she'd say) because of the side effects, she didn't really respond to that point while we were messaging each other.
I also have a TiM cousin who used to bully me for things he likes now that I used to like when I was younger lol. It's kinda crazy to think about...
How do you talk about the "trans" topic with friends in a way that is constructive? Or I guess the gender topic? My friend also believes nonbinary is real too...and is pan while I am bi.
My siblings are ALL against the TRA movement, but they're also rather...traditional/reserved, but we still have interesting conversations and have changed eachothers minds on certain topics or at least are able to sympathize with one another. We don't really argue about controversial topics, we just discuss and try to find middle ground but...I know my siblings best. With other people, I am not sure how to temper(?) or adapt(?) conversation in a way they understand, you know? I also come from a different cultural bg from friend, my friend has western views.
EDIT: I've been meaning to reply to everyone's post, sorry if I did not get to your comment! I've been working a lot of hours lately at my company...very little sleep...need to work as much as possible right now due to life circumstances.
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