I admit, I have done similar. Just... fail to do my womanly duty by offering my services any time a man needs something. I also didn't smile or tilt my head!

The point where people are getting stuck is that he's disabled. If he wasn't disabled then nobody would bat an eye when she didn't open the door for him cos clearly, he's perfectly able to open the door all by himself.

But we live in a world where sexism and racism and homophobia are things which exist, oftentimes socially and institutionally set into stone; and because of that pervasiveness, many times we do need those in the more powerful group to step up and speak out and agree that a specific sexist/racist/homophobic thing is awful and needs to be changed -- yet they remain silent. They remain silent year after year, decade after decade, eon after eon. Because they just don't care.

Fuck 'em. They had their chance to be decent human beings and they've failed spectacularly.

If you want me to be nice to you, then you have to give me basic human decency first. If you're in a demographic which has denigrated me from birth onwards, failed to help rectify that in any way, and then expect me to do you a little kindness? Don't be daft. I am not man's loyal dog, content to lap up his crumbs after being left for years out in the cold and rain. When men continually place me in the box marked "madonna whore maid" then I'm not gonna do jack for men.

(edited to add. I would help him if I knew him personally, and knew him to be a decent sort.)