Huh this is a whole.... hole..... (woman raped by TIM says being raped by a TIM is no different than being raped by a woman - SO SHUT TF UP)

submitted by divingrightintowork from self.GenderCritical

Huh this is a whole.... hole.....

Original article - http://valleywag.gawker.com/twitter-engineer-dana-mccallum-pled-guilty-to-two-misde-1643207780

MTF Violently rapes wife after getting served divorce papers

Now-ex wife says some.... interesting things that kind of erase / ignore biology?

http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/2014/10/16/its-not-about-her-ex-a-trans-partners-story/

My case is not about the genitals of my wife. Her chromosomal structure and genital configuration and that she was assigned male at birth have got NOTHING TO DO with the sexual violation of my body. Why does it matter if she used her penis or even has one? WHO CARES?? You want so badly to create the “all men/penises are evil” platform, that you can’t see the anguish your comments cause me, the victim, and other victims of sexual abuse.

The CRIME here was not her gender configuration. What if she had XX chromosomes or a vagina? What if she had used a carrot? A bamboo plant? A fist, a dildo, or ANY OTHER BODY PART OR OBJECT? The CRIME was the sexual violation of my body by someone I loved, who was under the influence of alcohol. THAT should be the focus of this conversation, not the instrument used.

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[–]tuesday 39 insightful - 2 fun39 insightful - 1 fun40 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

If that's her attitude then why even bother getting divorced? I mean, if she's willing to reframe reality even for rape in order to make the man in a dress feel better, she's obviously prioritizing his needs above her own.

So she might as well be consistent and continue to prioritize his needs.

[–]divingrightintowork[S] 18 insightful - 9 fun18 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

"but What if I had cerebral palsy and I was dating an Olympic heavy lifting female who fished sperm out of the garbage and shoved it into my vagina? How is that any different from a man raping me?"

I feel like that's pretty much what she said.

[–]luckystar 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Later in the article she says "my wife" and says she's willing to forgive """her""" so maybe they did get back together?

[–]yishengqingwa666 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

https://trustyourperceptions.wordpress.com/2012/11/04/forgiveness-positive-thinking-eating-shit/

[–]StupidHappyPancakes 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Wow...what a tremendous article. I couldn't agree with it more because I stayed in a relationship with an abusive narcissist and forgave so much that it is humiliating to think of, all along thinking he was grateful for my efforts. It started early with him cheating on me with my best friend, which damn near caused a total nervous breakdown, but I swallowed my agony and tried to tend to HIS hurt feelings. But my forgiveness was nothing but permission for bad behavior, because such men know THEY wouldn't tolerate it, so they see forgiving women as lesser beings and take advantage of it.

[–]just_lesbian_things 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lmao she might as well pretend she wasn't raped, save us all the trouble, everybody can go home.

She's fucking delusional, and I don't care if she wants to fuck herself over, but she's not going to impose her and her husband's delusion on the rest of us. That's a fucking man.

[–]MarkTwainiac 32 insightful - 3 fun32 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

What if she had used a carrot? A bamboo plant? A fist, a dildo, or ANY OTHER BODY PART OR OBJECT?

Semen only comes out of penises. Semen contains sperm, and as a result a good number of female victims of penile vaginal rape end up pregnant and thus have to deal with the additional difficulties of either going ahead with the pregnancy, or terminating it. That means that in addition to dealing with the emotional and physical trauma of being raped, a woman could be in for a great deal of other emotional and physical suffering, some of lasting a very long time.

If a woman ends up pregnant as a result of rape and she goes ahead with the pregnancy, she runs the risk of developing a host of health problems - such as high blood pressure, hemorrhoids, serious childbirth injuries - that can have long-lasting implications and affect her health negatively for the rest of her life. Also, she can die giving birth.

Even if a woman is not impregnated during a penile vaginal rape, if she is in her "childbearing years" and is capable of ovulating (eg not on hormonal BC or so underweight that her cycles have stopped), the possibility that her rapist might have impregnated her will be a huge worry very much on her mind until she gets her next period. That's a lot of anxiety and dread heaped on top of the trauma of rape.

If the other named objects, a fist or "any other body part"* are used to vaginally rape a woman, they can still cause injury to her vagina, labia, clit, urethra and urinary tract, perianal area, pudendal nerve, etc - and can cause bruising and skin tears to her thighs and genital area more generally.

If these other objects, a fist or "any other body part"* used to commit a vaginal rape happen to be contaminated with pathogens, they can expose the woman to various dangerous diseases too.

Some of these pathogens - regular staph, fungi, MRSA, E. coli, enterobacter, klebsiella for example - cause infections that aren't specifically sexual in nature. However, if a fist or "any other body part" is used to vaginally rape a woman, it can lead to certain sexually transmitted diseases that are spread by skin-to-skin contact: these include genital herpes, syphilis, and human papillomavirus (HPV), which in turn can lead to cervical cancer.

Using a penis to rape a woman can also lead her to contract HIV, chlamydia and gonorrhea because those are infectious diseases that are spread by semen or blood.

Finally, although it's not known yet whether the coronavirus that causes COVID-19 can be spread by semen or fecal matter, Chinese scientists have reported that the virus has been found in male sperm as well as in fecal matter many months after COVID-19 patients have recovered.

*Note: I keep putting quotes around "any other body part" because I am curious about which body parts belonging to adults other than a fist/hand/lower arm can be used to rape a woman. An elbow? A knee? A foot or big toe? A clitoris? A breast?

This woman wants us to believe that the sex of the man who raped her doesn't matter because "any other body part" belonging to males or females is just as likely to be used to commit vaginal rape as a penis is. Yeah, right. She just comes off as desperate, dumb and totally in denial. Sounds like folie à deux.

[–]divingrightintowork[S] 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She is in an awful spot - so I have empathy for her - but I can safely say she has not been raped by a female as evidenced by her words - also it is obvious a female cannot rape another female like that in any way - but also the way she describes, unless there are other extenuating circumstance.

[–]BEB 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sorry, I wrote my comment before I saw yours - well done!

I think that one thing we need to stress when we talk to people about the need for sex-segregated spaces is that women who are raped can get pregnant, and in many places, FORCED TO REPRODUCE. Men, no matter how "womanly" they feel in their pretty little heads, cannot.

[–]MarkTwainiac 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No reason to apologize!

[–]Nona_Biba 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To add to your comment, it would probably be easier for a female to fight off another female who is trying to attack/ rape her than for a female to fight off a male attacker. So yes his sex matters very much.

[–]RevengeOfTheCis 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

One of my most hated phrases is in the first paragraph: "a woman of trans history". I fucking hate that TRAs just keep watering down the language for TIMs, further and further obfuscating the fact that TIMs are male.

I have seen that "woman of trans history" bullshit quite a lot recently, but I'm shocked to see it used here in an article from 2014. Wow.

But if they want to use it, fine with me. Just answer me this: why is it that for so many of those "women", a "trans history" means a history of being a rapist?

[–]divingrightintowork[S] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

"A woman of trans history," sounds like a detransitioned woman to me. Not a TIM.

[–]RevengeOfTheCis 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree! But of course they use it to mean TIM. eyeroll

[–]Shesstealthy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Snap!!

[–]slushpilot 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Does that mean the male genitals are history? Of course not.

[–]Shesstealthy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Woman of trans history sounds like a description of a woman who desisted, not a TW.

[–]luckystar 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is the twitter case, right? All of Silicon Valley has swallowed the gender ideology deep. It's already an environment that is heavily dominated by men -- autistic spectrum men, socially awkward men, men with a disproportionate amount of money and power, men that are a little too into anime. (I originally wrote all of those to say "people", until I realized I was guilty of the same brainwashing thing -- I'm not talking about shitty "people" here, I'm talking about shitty "men").

I've heard so many stories of rape, people ending up at sex parties without realizing it, men who are comfortable buying women, and stuff like that. SV Companies love trans women because they boost the male:female ratio without having to actually hire a woman. Even better, really, because everything here is about paying lip service to the oppression Olympics and the most oppressed women are men that claim to be women, natch.

I'm not at all surprised that a woman would be in such a state of cognitive dissonance over her ex husband acting male while claiming to be a female. The idea of challenging TWAW is simply a non option to them, they would view it as offensive and inappropriate as dropping an n-bomb. I've asked a few straight techbros if they'd date a trans woman and they get extremely visibly uncomfortable, swear up and down they would, but then say something vague and dodgy like "I am attracted to certain feminine traits that trans women are less likely to have" or something because just saying "no" would not be acceptable.

[–]luckystar 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Just read it, this paragraph jumped out at me:

"Those of us who are partnered to trans people are used to this, to some degree. The trans person takes up all the space; they’re the ones people are interested in, who people go out of their way to validate or compliment or criticize. We disappear."

Hmm I wonder why

[–]our_team_is_winning 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No woman should ever be raped and I feel for her there. But she has deliberately blocked out reality: <TO all of the people who deny the personhood and womanhood of trans women,> She is denying the MANHOOD of her rapist. Manhood. Nobody denies he's a person. Nobody is denying their "existence" as they like to claim. If they didn't exist, they wouldn't be causing all these problems. Clearly they exist. We're acknowledging their manhood.

[–]BEB 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because a carrot, a fist, a dildo, and even a bamboo plant cannot get you pregnant, dear...

[–]Killer_Danish 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Handmaiden is gonna handmaiden. sigh

Reminds me of the lady who tours around with her rapist... poor little rapist; screw the victim

[–]lady-wolverine 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This man only got four days in jail for the rape and battery of his wife. Fucking clown world.

[–]purrfect 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened to her.

I'm also sorry about her mental gymnastics and word salad that inevitably comes from the brainwashing of the TRA cult.

[–]PassionateIntensity 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pathetic. I guarantee you this wasn't a "rape out of nowhere" but a continuing pattern of abuse. She's still in denial. Someone PM her the Trans Window Escape Committee.

[–]radarladal 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Being raped by a man with a penis is very different from being raped by a woman with a vagina.

Am I to be burned at the stake now?

[–]divingrightintowork[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes - for the original sin of being born female though.

[–]anonymale 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because she (sic) would have never done this sober.

Or if female. It's classic male-pattern violence. "I own you, married or not. I'll show you."

Dude now appears to have feminised and Hibernised his surname to NicCaluim. So, also a Plastic Paddy.

[edit: misunderstood who was divorcing who]

Since around 2018 said dude has moved into aviation, now using the name Dana Davidsen.

https://saidit.net/s/GenderCritical/comments/654t/dana_contrerasmccallumniccaluim_now_uses_the_name/