I’ve actually witnessed this at a local pet rescue organization (the organization is still AWESOME, btw) as well as at a local grocery store (two locations, not just one place). Also, an acquaintance witnessed it while they were in the juvenile psychiatric ward in the hospital, a young TIF going off on how she wasn’t a girl because girls were stupid. I think a part of it is internalized misogyny, like this sort of “Hmph, I’ve risen above your level - your pink-wearing, glittery, shallow, gossip-mongering, feather-brained level”, as well as a reminder that no matter what, they’re always going to see you that way. Especially as a self-defense mechanism, if you’re not embodying a womanly gender role like that, like they can “see through you” in the way some men claim to be able to “see through” supposedly intelligent, strong women. Another part is that I think many people, including TIFs, think men just behave that way. That men are just shitty and rude to everyone.

Also, tbh, a lot of TIFs are women that have endured abuse and trauma due to their sex in the past, and now have depression, anxiety, and a whole slew of mental conditions due to it, and they’ve been promised that transitioning will fix everything. That usually means that none of that trauma is being addressed effectively. So they’re still upset. They’re not dealing with it.