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One of my friends is a white girl and one of her friends is a TIM that is CONSTANTLY touching her inappropriately. When I ask her why she doesn't speak up, she says it's because they're both women and women touching women is okay. TIMs know that their perceived femininity and also victim status has provided more gains than losses and that's why they do what they do. Even the ugliest scummiest man can get access to hot girls just because he wears dresses. If women asks why he appears to have a boner... it's just "gender euphoria".

[–]nothingtosee 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This was actually the cause of my "peak trans" moment. I started hanging out more with a TIM and they were allll up in my space. And seriously, it would've been weird to have a female friend this up in my space. But this felt 100% like what it was... a male-bodied person with five inches and sixty pounds+ on me, who was obviously attracted to me, using what excuse they could to be snuggly with me. It took forever to get the courage to tell them to stop in any fashion and literally I just told them I was in trauma therapy and needed more body space. This person is part of my husband's main friend group so if it were just me, sure, let people think I'm transphobic. But I felt very aware that calling out this person in a not-perfectly-delicate way could have lost my husband his whole friend group. My trans-movement support broke with that.