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[–][deleted] 22 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

One of my friends is a white girl and one of her friends is a TIM that is CONSTANTLY touching her inappropriately. When I ask her why she doesn't speak up, she says it's because they're both women and women touching women is okay. TIMs know that their perceived femininity and also victim status has provided more gains than losses and that's why they do what they do. Even the ugliest scummiest man can get access to hot girls just because he wears dresses. If women asks why he appears to have a boner... it's just "gender euphoria".

[–]our_team_is_winning 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

a TIM that is CONSTANTLY touching her inappropriately. When I ask her why she doesn't speak up, she says it's because they're both women and women touching women is okay.

Ok, a lot of us women are comfortable with another woman brushing our hair, or squeezing our hand, accidentally brushing against our chest to get past us, etc. but I am sure none of us reaches over and touches a female friend (friend, not lover) on her breast or puts our hands inside her thighs or something. It sounds like this friend of yours knows this is not about women touching women --- this is about her letting a TIM take advantage of her because she's afraid of insulting a TIM. She's putting her own fear of "being a transphobe" ahead of her personal safety.

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah it's probably that too and she's afraid to admit it. Thankfully, she's been spending less time with him since quarantine. Hopefully, that'll wake her up to how messed the friendship is.

[–]Delia 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It does not matter who its doing it, if it is inappropriate touching it is just that.