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[–]greenish 23 insightful - 3 fun23 insightful - 2 fun24 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

This was one of my first peaks when I was still a TIF. I was told by a bunch of TIMs that they had never experienced male privilege because people could sense their magically gendered souls and treated them as women since birth (I knew these guys, it was very difficult to see them as women, even when I believed, and none of them had transitioned yet).

Any privilege they did receive traumatised them because that's not how women are treated, implying that they should be treated worse as 'women', and would be more comfortable with that because of their and the submissive nature of their "female soul essence".

And they saw themselves in female examples, so they said when they saw women around them/in the media being exploited/objectified it affected them just as badly because they identified as a woman, and perhaps even worse because as they would never be treated like that, it was a sign of other people not recognising their gendered soul, which was an extra cross to bare that those badly treated woman could never understand. Oh the humanity!

They also told me that as I had a male 'gendered soul' I had always been male, and therefore always had male privileged, and anything bad that had happened to be because I was female (a lot) had actually happened to a man, proving that these things happened to men too and weren't a female issue. However, these bad things (rape, CSA, etc) were rendered not so bad because of my male privilege, so I needed to STFU about them and in no way imply I had anything in common with other women, because that would be me using my male privilege to speak over them.

[–]TurtleFuzz 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Holy shit. This is insane. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this. I hope you're far removed from these psychos now, and you are getting the support you need.

[–]greenish 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It was a few years ago now and I received Zero support, and a lot of abuse as I desisted. However, I am still fine! In fact better than ever :)