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[–]transwoman 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Never did I say that I represented the trans community, in fact I emphasized throughout my comments here that the majority of the trans community is a problem. I expressed my solidarity for the oppression people who are female have experienced for centuries upon centuries, and by emphasizing the significance of systemic racism I did not mean to undermine the experiences of and systemic oppression experienced by natal women, nor make it appear as of lesser importance.

Being trans, I felt I could offer something in this discussion about transgender vs transracial. I respect what GC is doing and had a good discussion with a few people on here, but clearly whatever I say to you will never be good enough, so you will not be one of those people I'm willing to have an open discussion with.

I did not mean to overstep any bounds, and I stated at the start that if I'm not welcome here, that the mods can remove the comment, or ban me from posting. I understand why you lashed out in anger to this, however, and I hope you are able to find peace.

[–][deleted] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

If one tg would not stalk me thinking I was the holy grail because you all can "finally wear heels" and "be the little spoon" and think we are getting married tomorrow, I would (have peace). I am seen by tg as a prop, as a disposable wash cloth. As a fetish. As a character of the story in your head, of you wanting to be with someone of larger stature, to make you feel more valid, to ease your dysphoria and increase your euphoria. I have been flat out told, I am chased for this. By many, not just in one country either. I have been asked to be a domme, a giantess to step on you, to hit you.

I have only been seen as a piece of meat fetish by any transgender who has contacted me on any dating app, or at events I have been to--several hundred. Some have "transitioned" and are business owners, and work in professional areas.

Why would your people treat me like that when the largest complaint of any transgender on a dating app is being seen as a fetish?

If you are single and on a dating app, I bet all the money I have--you probably saw me and wanted to match with me because of my heights, my looks, my hobbies, who I am, and you see me as some playing card to collect. People think because they have degrees and had surgeries their behaviors are OK. NOT OK. I am not here to ask for pity. Psychology is one of my degrees. I am here to share personal experiences, as a warning to women. Several hundred trans stalking me in person and attacking me for rejecting them, politely, is a statistically valid sample of the population. In a statistics class, we would call,this, p<.0005 and statistically significant. It might be convenience sampling, but so be it. I have had to relocate, change my phone, and more. I supported you. I marched with you. I participated in fundraisers, and you know what? For a time I thought, I would date you. I am a lesbian and there was a time, I became friends with, very close with a few even. And I was drinking that koolaid. Until, people snapped on me weekly, because of their withdrawals from estradiol injection not being "enough".

You are ALL the same. You have all talked to me the same, every time, using the same phrases. Taking estradiol for you, was going from black and white to color, was it not?

I was asked to do weird things, and call you "the woman" and "make you my woman" and wear heels, and not to wear makeup so you could be more valid.

NO standard male has abused me in the way trans has, and that is saying something.

I have no empathy for you.

I have no friendship for you.

Once I did, and I helped you, and I had serious friendships, and I thought, yeah, could I date you?

I do not have a phobia. A phobia is an irrational fear.

I have so many lived experiences.

Peace for me would look lke trans having their own bathrooms.

Peace for me looks like you having your own sports.

Peace for me looks like you not being a whiny NPD DSM V terrible rotten person who stalks.

Peace for me is you leaving everyone else alone.

Gay people just wanted to live their own lives, away from others, in peace.

Trans wants to rape the world, politically, economically, socially, emotionally, and violently so.

I am literally relocating to a Republican stronghold conservative area to escape the likes of you.

I am not even republican! I would rather deal with hillbilly men than trans.

[–]brink 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish you hadn't deleted your account, because your comment resonated really strongly with me. The most abusive relationship I have ever had was with a man who identified internally as a woman. Never again.