What do you do when there are trans women you actually like?

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[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I've never had this experience. I've had a few hundred reach out to me on dating apps ( I'm a tall lesbian).

I've had in person experience.

These people are in the process of having surgeries or have had them.

Business owners. An athlete. A musician. A therapist. A doctor. A chiropractor ( now I just outted that piece of fucking shit). A huge number of trans as others are referring to here, who work in tech, who are engineers, one who works for Apple, one who works for Google, an engineer at Amazon, a firefighter (soon I'll just name them, the more upset I'm getting, the less fucks I'm giving, even with my career in jeopardy without jk eff you money)-- all these people came at me, verbally abusive, more than one physically, one damaged my right rib, stalking me, trying to find me in person, because they wanted me.

I'm trying so fucking hard not to feel diminished in this moment because not one of you has been chased down hard by a trans. I'm not talking TRA teens in their basement and oh yeah, these people are mega high wage earners too.

You'll sing a different tune when they're sexually interested in you and you say no thanks. When these people demand you're a part of their fantasy in their head they have created, and when you don't comply, you're deemed guilty.

You have no idea how these people get when they get romantically interested in someone.

All of them think I'm the one because I'm a very tall lesbian.

I disagree with every comment here.

[–]jkfinn 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I also disagree with every comment, but not because I'm unlucky enough to know so many T's. But rather because this sub has only been around for like a month and already there have been several "NOT-ALL-TRANS" threads followed by loads of sympathetic posts. This mantra is strange on a GC Critical sub, esp since it’s far more dominant than “NOT-ALL-MEN” which I guess by now has been all but buried. And yet it’s not men who are directly displacing both women and feminism, but MtF trans.

I really believe this exception stuff should be reserved for private conversation at best, because this is supposed to be a political movement, not a psycho-therapist office... it’s like group therapy where each gets to admit that they love certain of their oppressors... it was exactly this type of privatizing that helped to kill the second wave and drove many women into becoming psycho-therapists. Forget the patterns of oppression because, you see, after all, it’s really all my personal experience.

[–]tuesday 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You said it way better than I ever could, thank you! <3

"I also disagree with every comment, but not because I'm unlucky enough to know so many T's. But rather because this sub has only been around for like a month and already there have been several "NOT-ALL-TRANS" threads followed by loads of sympathetic posts. This mantra is strange on a GC Critical sub, esp since it’s far more dominant than “NOT-ALL-MEN” which I guess by now has been all but buried. And yet it’s not men who are directly displacing both women and feminism, but MtF trans.

I really believe this exception stuff should be reserved for private conversation at best, because this is supposed to be a political movement, not a psycho-therapist office... it’s like group therapy where each gets to admit that they love certain of their oppressors... it was exactly this type of privatizing that helped to kill the second wave and drove many women into becoming psycho-therapists. Forget the patterns of oppression because, you see, after all, it’s really all my personal experience."

It's not so much that they should reserve their hero worship for a private room, but more like, they need better self awareness. Notice that someone with healthy self esteem doesn't need to constantly discuss all of Uncle John's bare minimum decency in order to point out that Uncle John has some seriously subpar criminal behavior that should, in a just world, get him thrown out of the house forever. pedophile/wife beater/subjugating women's rights/whatever. It's all on the same scale of awful and can we please stop the hero worship of behavior that is just bare minimum human decency. cos it's gaslighting in the extreme.

You know how some libfems will ooh and ah over a guy who takes out the trash once a week while she does everything else? Same thing.

[–]jkfinn 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yup. I have a very hard time or avoid altogether even mentioning Uncle John's name, let alone mentioning one seemingly good trait.