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[–]catoboros 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

My single data point says you might be about half right. I am an adult and I am nonbinary. My life is an employment scheme for my therapist. Self-employed in my dream job. Small number of great relationships.

[–]Hard_headed_woman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Wouldn't it be more accurate to say that you are gender non-conforming? After all, you do have a sex.

[–]catoboros 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Not at all: I pretty much entirely conform to the gender expression expected for my sex. Trans people can be gender conforming or gender nonconforming. Many binary trans people in particular seem to expend great effort conforming to a narrow stereotype of their gender.

Sex is immutable, but I have changed my sex characteristics to match my nonbinary gender identity.

[–]Literallyawoman 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Gender isn’t real everyone is non binary bruh. You still have a dick or a vagina

[–]catoboros 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree with sex being real and immutable. Gender identity is entirely subjective so there is no way of determining if some else's gender identity is real, nor should anyone be able to demand behaviour from others based on their gender identity. It has a lot in common with other belief systems like deeply held religious convictions. The main difference is the desire to change sex characteristics, but then there are cis people who do this too, so even surgical transition is not proof. I wish trans people stopped acting like what was in their heads defined reality for other people.