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[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Meh, I don't want to diminish people who want to have children... but I'd strongly advise any woman who's not wealthy against it. Having a child will cripple your earning potential and mobility, make you more likely to be tied to abusive partners/family, keep you trapped in jobs (health insurance) for much longer. I way underestimated how negatively it would impact my life, and I wasn't even planning on having kids, so it wasn't as if my perception was "rosy" to begin with.

[–]Realwoman 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If your kids were not planned, it makes sense that they restricted you. But many women do plan for kids and want them.

Also, not everyone lives in the US where health insurance for your children is tied to your job. And even without children, I don't see how anyone can afford to lose health insurance in the US anyway

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Many women who plan kids are hit blindsided once they arrive, as a lot of women aren’t told the reality of motherhood and how mothers are treated.

[–]Realwoman 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And many others think that motherhood is the best part of their lives. I have a close friend that really wanted a baby, had a nightmare pregnancy and post partum depression. She loves her child more than anything and doesn't regret having her.