We need an organised strategy rather than just complaining

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[–]JustAMom 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I love how your there for your neice. I've been trying to talk to my niece in a similar way. The school has already infiltrated, shes 12 and some of her friends already say they are pan, bi, or gay... They are 12 and haven't had any sexual interactions yet. Its horrible, let kids figure out who they are attracted too. Abigails Shriers book definitely hit home. As for my daughter, I plan on exposing her to many diverse people. I also bought her the book My Body is Me. As far as activism, I have to take a passive route. I do speak to friends and family to raise awareness. I refuse to use TRA language. I've thought of writing my congress woman regarding the Equality Act, but I dont want to get doxed or put my family in danger.

[–]reluctant_commenter 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Is it bad if a 12 year old says they are gay or bi, though? If they want to surgically alter their bodies or start taking hormone blockers at that age, that could damage them for years down the road. But if they believe they are homosexual and then it turns out they are straight, who is harmed? I know someone personally who realized he was gay at 13, for example.

I hope you don't mind me asking, I am not a regular on this sub and don't know most of the beliefs here.

[–]JustAMom 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Its not about them being gay or bi. I apologize if I wasn't clear and after re-reading my post I see how I sound. Its about them being taught they have to pick a category before they know who they are. If it was a few kiddos who knew, that would be one thing. But its her whole friend group. I feel its wrong to guide a child in a direction of sexual orientation before they understand who they are. I do not believe in conversation therapy and this feels similar.

[–]JustAMom 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I got interrupted during my first response. No it is not bad if a 12 year old feels that way. Even if they change their mind, no harm. I know many people who knew they were gay at a young age. I'd like to recommend the book Abigail Shrier Irreversible Damage. She truly gets into the minds of teenage girls, peer pressure, and what they are being taught in school.

[–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see what you mean. I could get how, for example, one child who is popular figures out their sexuality, and others decide to come out as the same sexuality before really realizing what it means to examine how they feel. I think it requires recognition of the nuance there-- that how kids feel is real and valid, but also that kids are particularly susceptible to being peer pressured into saying certain things. Thanks for clarifying your thoughts, I appreciate it :)

I will take a look! I have seen it mentioned a couple times, and I am a lurker in a couple of detrans communities. I was a teenage girl not too long ago so I'm curious to hear what her perspective is.