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[–]slushpilot 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

It's one thing to see porn & articles like this as an adult once you've had the chance to grow up and experience some normal relationships. You can roll your eyes and brush it off easily.

It's another thing to see it at 13 or whatever, and see it everywhere before you can put any of it in context with your own experience & realize that it's not actually normal.

You can call it "infantilizing" and talk about personal responsibility, but I'd bet the worst impact of this stuff is actually on children who are just figuring things out. Even if they're not abused or have other problems, girls can be lonely and say they enjoy the things they believe are expected of them.

[–]Doobeedoo661 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I anticipated the prepubescent aspect. This is where parents should step up to the plate, where a lot of the blame should probably be laid. I guess it’s survival of the fittest in the end, cause I can’t see the world changing fast enough to ensure everyone’s safety in which porn is no longer readily available. Everyone gets lonely, but to seek out companionship with abusers is a whole level of defective behaviour way beyond my pay grade.

[–]our_team_is_winning[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Everyone gets lonely, but to seek out companionship with abusers is a whole level of defective behaviour way beyond my pay grade.

Playing devil's advocate: Are there women who make these weird choices? Yes. In the mid 80s I had a male friend who told me about a girl who tried to become his girlfriend. Her sales pitch was to tell him she'd had past men beat her and abuse her, claiming she could take anything he could dish out. He was NOT an abuser and was very disturbed by her offer. He told me about it because it freaked him out. But what had happened to that girl in the past to make her like that? I'd guess a large % of adult women had something bad happen in the past so that now they seek out abuse because it's familiar.

[–]Doobeedoo661 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Speechless.