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[–]Doobeedoo661 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I anticipated the prepubescent aspect. This is where parents should step up to the plate, where a lot of the blame should probably be laid. I guess it’s survival of the fittest in the end, cause I can’t see the world changing fast enough to ensure everyone’s safety in which porn is no longer readily available. Everyone gets lonely, but to seek out companionship with abusers is a whole level of defective behaviour way beyond my pay grade.

[–]our_team_is_winning[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Everyone gets lonely, but to seek out companionship with abusers is a whole level of defective behaviour way beyond my pay grade.

Playing devil's advocate: Are there women who make these weird choices? Yes. In the mid 80s I had a male friend who told me about a girl who tried to become his girlfriend. Her sales pitch was to tell him she'd had past men beat her and abuse her, claiming she could take anything he could dish out. He was NOT an abuser and was very disturbed by her offer. He told me about it because it freaked him out. But what had happened to that girl in the past to make her like that? I'd guess a large % of adult women had something bad happen in the past so that now they seek out abuse because it's familiar.

[–]Doobeedoo661 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Speechless.

[–]OrneryStruggle 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

It's disgusting that you're saying something like this on a feminist forum. Preteens very rarely knowingly "seek out" companionship with abusers. You don't know someone is an abuser by looking at them. Jesus what a disgusting thing to say.

[–]crazyangryfemale 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you!! There’s nothing for someone like this on a feminist-based forum.