We're honestly talking about the same thing and just using different words. I in no way think any of the things I mentioned are inherently feminine, I don't think there is any way to exist that is inherently feminine. But when I use that word people tend to know what I mean... I mean we're living at a time where every gendered phrase has like three different definitions to it, just give me a bit of a break. I am usually of the opinion that we need new words to describe this thing besides masculine and feminine. Saying I'm a feminine woman because I like to wear dresses and makeup is sort of counterproductive, I see your point there. Unrhetorically though, what else would you call it? I'm not trying to "gotcha," I'm genuinely curious and have been wondering this myself. When I say "the difference between feminine and masculine women" in regards to sexism, people generally know what I mean even though I'm upholding stereotypes by using those words, and that sucks. Flamboyant? Stoic? I genuinely don't know what adjectives to use that convey the same thing, because especially in regards to sexism it's often important to make distinctions, like "masculine women are respected more than feminine women," for instance, but if I don't want to use those words, what should I use? I'm open to ideas.