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[–]MadLass 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I really wish youd edit that last part out. This is just going to be plastered somewhere how TeRFs really are tHreAtEniNg us.

BUT as a mom to a special needs son my heart literally started beating faster when you mentioned its always us that are blamed never the fathers. That really resonated with me especially as a single mom even I catch myself doing it and its an awful cycle. I feel your pain resources already fall short for us as women and mothers it makes me sick seeing them watered down further for men to live out fantasies.

[–]AdultFemaleHuman[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s how I feel too. Fathers are let off the hook, the moms are the ones who have to quit our careers and then do our best to provide therapy we aren’t trained to provide.

I still blame myself too even though I know it’s not logical.

I actually am just recovering from a bout of depression due to all the stress of being a special needs mom. I was hospitalized and had to stay in a mixed-sex ward. I was in a hallway just for women and lo and behold there was a TiM across the hall from me. The staff conducted room checks every 15 minutes and asked me to keep my door ajar (it was a locked ward with each room requiring key card access) and I said no way due to the presence of men on the ward, and a nurse had the audacity to say to me “but there are no men in your hallway.”