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    [–]Girlwiththeraventat 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    I can't even express how deeply that statement hurt my feelings. He never struck me as particularly sexist or misogynist but after that and some more recent statements I have realized how he really feels.

    There is no bar for men. They think they are owed a submissive wife who does everything as long as they bring home a paycheck. The expectation of me doing everything honestly crushes me. I hope the younger generations of both men and women learn to work together to make a equal life. No so lopsided. But older men dont even how truly lopsided it is and that's the whole problem.

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      [–]Girlwiththeraventat 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

      No sorry, I meant what my husband said about men not seeing the mess and it's not mens fault women wanted to work killed me inside. I agreed with your comment.

      [–]one_special_turnip 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      One thing you could ask him is does he feel the house needs to be kept clean to the level that you do it? For a surprising amount of men the answer is no they really don't care.

      [–]tuesday 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      that is actually bullshit. They care, just not enough to do any cleaning themselves. That is why they got a girlfriend in the first place, to be their maid. It's a game they play.

      They are supposedly bright enough to design a washing machine but are too stupid to know how to use it? They are playing a game of chicken. They will step over the mess on the floor until you do it. They see the mess, that's why they step around it. They see the filthy dishes, that's why they won't use them again and why they're waiting for you to clean them.