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[–]Maly_Querent[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean like, i think that's the thing. It seems to me as if you are misinterpreting Lorde's definition of the erotic. Like, to her, it isn't inherently sexual. The erotic can be anything that brings intense satisfaction and pleasure. Lorde's example is of breaking a capsule of yellow dye and mixing it in with margarine. There's nothing inherently sexual about kneading margarine, but the intimacy and satisfaction of the product that you helped create, is still erotic.

There's a difderence, but because we are ruled by the pornographic, all we see imtimacy as, is an extension of sex and sexuality. This then limits what we percive as pleasurable and limits us to seeking sexual encounters as the only means of fulfilling much needed intimacy and satisfaction.