How is pointing out racism "victimhood culture"? Is pointing out misogyny victimhood culture? Are we part of victimhood culture by saying the trans movement is anti-woman?

This hatred of the "Oppression Olympics" is honestly laughable. Yes, liberal idiots have turned being oppressed into a checklist. That does not mean that we can ignore oppression!

Why should women of colour feel more connected to white women than to their own families? A Black woman may not be friends with a single white woman, but her brothers, her lovers, her SONS may be Black.

So really, what is this unity you are proposing? What value does it have? Because it sounds like you're expecting women of colour to drop everything to campaign for white women to be free, even though a woman of colour may be oppressed far more directly due to her race (she may inherent her family's poverty, for example). And if she is a lesbian, than what direct benefit does she get from the feminist movement rather than the gay rights movement? She's not going to get pregnant, and the gay rights movement supports single sex spaces too. Sure, the gay movement won't care about single sex bathrooms as much, but that may not be a pressing concern for her. There are other things happening in the world apart from transgenderism; we don't get to demand that everyone focus on this one thing that we have decided to fight. There are people in the world without access to clean water; why are we worrying about bathrooms?

Racism is an out growth of patriarchy, like transgenderism; we cannot ignore it because holding ourselves to the same standards we hold other oppressive groups (for example, men) to makes us uncomfortable. Feminism, unlike many other movements, cannot be divorced from class, or race, or country, or orientation, because misogyny is the ur example of oppression. All manner of foul things grow from it.

Real unity requires recognizing these hideous outgrowths. It requires fighting them, and standing beside our disadvantaged sisters as much as we can. We do not get to create a "victimhood culture" in response to transgenderism, but berate others for doing the same.