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[–]Catbug 38 insightful - 6 fun38 insightful - 5 fun39 insightful - 6 fun -  (8 children)

is because you’re a man. It makes sense. The reason I hated my periods, the way puberty affected my body? Because I was a man. If I was a woman, I wouldn’t care about my periods, or growing breasts, or being looked at differently by adults before I could comprehend what they were looking at. If I was a woman, all that and more would not have been troubling to me.

What an idiot. Enjoying her self deprecating tone throughout.

[–]ZeWombat 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

This is the quote that got me, as well. As if all female people LOVE their periods, the cramps, the accidents, their changing bodies, unwanted attention and everything else about it. I don't love that stuff, but it's reality. If every woman who didn't love their period and breasts transitioned, there'd be A LOT more trans men.

[–]Catbug 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, she does a great job showing how easily tra gobbles up struggling children by feeding them affirmation and affection

[–]Realwoman 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I've said so many times I wish I was a man when I get my period. Men have it easy. Does this make me a man? No

[–]Anna_Nym 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You read through the end, right? That's just describing his thought process at the time. His whole point is that he understands now that what he thought at 12 years old was oversimplified and wrong. (not shocking given how young he was!)

[–]Catbug 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah I read it. It’s an excellent reason to stop giving children hormones and stuff when they think such silly and simplistic things about sex.

[–]Anna_Nym 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, I agree current society is failing our teen girls in horrible ways. I don't think the teen girls are idiots for being failed, though.

[–]Catbug 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The idea is idiotic and girls are being failed by nobody challenging their childish misconceptions. Children are dumb by nature. Adults are supposed to protect them from their dumb ideas.

[–]LasagnaRossa 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

LOL

I guess I'm trans too since I always wish to yeet my uterus to space every first day of period. Who knew.

[–]Yayme 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If you can make it all the way to the end, it's not that bad.

Spoiler alert -

"Obviously a man isn’t anyone who identifies as one — despite identifying as one, the most important facets of manhood never came to me, namely the dick that I am still angry at God for not giving me. A man is a man, he was born as one. And I am a female — and to say it another way, a woman. And a woman cannot be a man. But I can be a lesbian, which is the next best thing. As it would turn out, it is even better."

[–]malleus_maleficarum 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I wonder how long before other trans people burn her at the stake for this...

[–]Anna_Nym 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I'm familiar with him on Twitter. He's part of a biology-acknowledging circle of trans folk, so he's already outside of the TRA crowd.

I wish more people would read voices like him and that we could suck the oxygen away from TRAs. I thought this was beautifully written and a clear articulation of how the TRA language hurts trans people as well. Heck, although he sounds truly dysphoric, maybe in a different fork in the world where Tumblr didn't help drive queer activism off the rails, he would have come to accept himself as both a woman and a lesbian without needing medical transition.

Back in the 2000-2010 years, no one questioned trans men's belonging in the lesbian community. The first time I can remember anyone questioning it was a trans woman on Feministing (Jos Truitt), and it mostly seemed motivated by cotton ceiling crap. I recall the commentariat being pretty resistant and pointing out that the realities of physical bodies are part of sexual orientation. I also recall people saying it was gross to essentially police other people's desires.

[–]writerlylesbian 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I was around in those days. I wasn't thrilled at lesbians whose self-hatred ran so deep they decided to try and transition out of their problems as women and lesbians, and then still expect to take refuge in that same community. Pretty disrespectful in my view.

[–]adultxhumanxfemale 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is a take on the issue I've never heard before. Thank you.

[–]ZeWombat 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was around then also. I totally agree with you. Seemed like every butch lesbian was transitioning. I'm way oversimplifying it, but in some ways it seemed like a contest of who could be more butch.

[–]censorshipment 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Didn't read it all, but the parts I skimmed over resonated with me. Biologically/sexually: homosexual female. Socially: a (trans) man. I lived that life during my 20s... was a lesbian at home with my girlfriend, and a man (by appearance) to random people.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

What does this mean? I don't get it. Lesbians are not men.

[–]Seahorse 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

FFS.

[–]salty-tomorrow 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That was ... weird. But still, I appreciated reading her perspective. Thanks for sharing.