I see where you are coming from, but I see where she is coming from too.

The first job I had, I used to walk to work through the park. There was a middle aged women who also used to walk through the park at that time too with her spaniels, who for some reason had a problem with me walking through the park on my way to work, despite the fact that she was also a single woman walking through the same bit of the same park at the same time. Everytime I would see her she would yell 'you're going to get raped!' At me, and chase me and otherwise tell me off. It would be difficult to rape someone in a busy park, in the centre of the town, in broad daylight, but there you go. But she did start getting under my skin, making me feel uncomfortable and anxious for the crime of wanting to walk to work. I don't think that kind of fear is helpful to women.

I had a similar problem with my mother who, when I was a child, graphically described how men would rape and kill me if I was ever home alone. Years ans years later, I still feel fearful being home alone even though the risk of a home invasion is negligible.

I don't think teaching women to feel fear in those situations is good. That being said there are situations in which women should feel fear that we're not taught about - if a man violates a boundary for example he should be cancelled immediately, but I feel as women we're socialised to be afraid of being out in broad daylight alone, but to give men who are obvious predators chances.

I also think the original poster should have used the example she did, it is perfectly legitimate for a woman to not want a man in her home. OP if you see this, it is not only the fear of being raped, there's a fear that men will grope or steal or make inappropriate comments that will leave you feeling unsafe in what needs to be your safe space. Also a delivery driver will then know your address.

So in conclusion, I think women are taught to be afraid of existing as an independent entity in the world, which in my opinion is wrong. That being said women should be taught to be wary of male acquaintances and associates.