This is a problem for me too. I have been in abusive relationships and friendships because I didn't see the warning signs. Then I stay in those relationships because I don't know how to get out of them. Before I was diagnosed, I had a minor existential crisis because I felt really isolated and didn't know who I could trust. It was really difficult for me to make friends because people keep saying things they don't mean and I can't tell the difference (e.g. "Let's go for coffee sometime!" But then avoid making an actual date...). I couldn't understand why I was being treated that way and I saw it as really dishonest and flaky.

As a teen, I think I would have been very vulnerable to this ideology, had it been popular in my day. I didn't fit in socially and was bullied for a time. I was not interested in stereotypically feminine things. My friends at school were all quirky, nerdy, tomboy types (a few have since come out as lesbians, though I am straight). Even now, I find it very difficult to befriend women. All my closest friends are male. It's not that I don't want to be friends with women, but they don't want to be friends with me. Men feel so much more straightforward to interact with, and they don't read into every little thing that I say (usually I say exactly what I mean and mean what I say, but NTs always manage to find hidden subtext that isn't there).