Straight men won't sleep with me!! When a straight guy says he is not into me, nor other trans women, I feel butthurt–emotionally and, unfortunately, not physically.

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[–]AreYouSureee 64 insightful - 7 fun64 insightful - 6 fun65 insightful - 7 fun -  (1 child)

“ My friends warned me about writing this column on why my crushes won’t crush me back. They said the guys I like won’t fuck me because they’re straight. He’s—you know—into women, they said, the transphobia as thinly veiled as a penis in a lambskin condom. My friends were implying that heterosexuality is male attraction to women—and I just don’t make the cut.”

Yes, your friend got it right! That’s literally what heterosexual means.

[–]MezozoicGay 21 insightful - 5 fun21 insightful - 4 fun22 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

It is almost like "heterosexual" and "homosexual" have word "sex" in them and not "gender".

[–]Lilith_Fair 60 insightful - 6 fun60 insightful - 5 fun61 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I sincerely hope they start going after straight men. I hope their Twitter Mob will start going batshit crazy to make it a movement to demand straight men to stop their "transphobia" in their dating pool, the way they've been going after lesbians, women, and JK Rowling. Hell, I hope they start demanding Daniel Radcliff publicly admit that he would date and marry a transwoman. I hope they'll enforce silence on straight men who dare to say otherwise, and threaten to cancel them and report them to their employers if they dare to say no. Then, and maybe then, this insanity will finally stop.

[–]SameOldBS 17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, I've often said it's only when the guys start getting it in the neck that this crap will stop.

[–]lefterfield 44 insightful - 9 fun44 insightful - 8 fun45 insightful - 9 fun -  (2 children)

Ah, if only I had the entitled self-involvement of a privileged white male in a western country. My life would be magical if only I could be paid to write an article pretending that all of my shortcomings are the fault of other people. Alas.

[–]Veneficca 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Heterosexuality failed ME!"

No, but it's failed women by the millions. This asshole's biggest problem is that pretty boys with philosophy degrees aren't lining up to bang him. In the meantime, women are reading the latest family annihilator news story and wondering how they can leave their husbands without ending up dead.

[–]GConly 38 insightful - 2 fun38 insightful - 1 fun39 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

My friends were implying that heterosexuality is male attraction to women

Yes that is literally what it it is.

We've known for a few decades that sexual orientation is caused by prenatal hormones, with post birth environment really only affecting opportunity and willingness to experiment or come out.

Still, nice to see one not whining at lesbians for a change.

[–]MezozoicGay 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Still, nice to see one not whining at lesbians for a change.

It is still the same thing, thought. "I explicitly want someone who is not interested in dicks to taste my dick". This one just happened to be gay and not straight this time.

[–]takeyourjoyjohn 30 insightful - 4 fun30 insightful - 3 fun31 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

"Psychiatrist and postcolonial thinker Frantz Fanon and Black feminist scholar Hortense Spillers argue that desire is shaped by broader social forces like colonialism and the legacy of chattel slavery, respectively."------whatever studies you have to read to justify your sexuality, go for it guy

"Sure, it might be that— or my stretch marks, my misplaced moles, and every other shred of evidence of being a living, breathing female. I would scold any other trans girl for jumping to the fact of transness as the cause for rejection"

"I may come off as a bit aggressive posing the question, Why won’t you fuck me? It may even sound that I feel entitled to their desire. Wouldn’t it be lovely to have fucking be a human right? Alas, it’s not, and it cannot be. Desire is not enforceable, nor can it conform to our politics------"trans women are starting to sound like incel men.... This is kinda rapey

"it would be pretty cool if a Trans 101 was the new Viagra, if #TransIsBeautiful could be a command, and not just an affirmation."----no, no it would not

"I shouldn’t have to, and frankly cannot, change straight men. I feel like I’m failing at the game of heterosexuality–when actually, heterosexuality is failing me."------lol this sounds entitled

[–]MezozoicGay 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

or my stretch marks [...] evidence of being a living, breathing female

So stretch marks are "inherently female characteristics" in his mind?

[–]takeyourjoyjohn 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Seems like he's just perpetuating the female stereotype... Trying to be relatable to the one thing that supposedly brings all women together. Desperately trying to grab for attention and support, it seems.

I mean, stretch marks though? It's definitely not inherently female. My husband has them lol. This is why this article was reduced to comedy for me.

[–]WrongToy 29 insightful - 6 fun29 insightful - 5 fun30 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe straight men aren't into penis. Earth-shattering, I know.

[–]greenbeans 22 insightful - 9 fun22 insightful - 8 fun23 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

So many words just to say 'I'm an entitled narcissist'.

[–]Killer_Danish 17 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Vice has a series on "heterosexual" men who secretly date/lust after transwomen. HINT: Most of them knew they were into transwomen after becoming addicted to transporn.

EDIT:

I’m left wondering what it would take for someone to want to fuck me.

You not being a self-centered, rapey narcissist might be a good starting point...

[–]hufflepuff-poet 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

"I may come off as a bit aggressive posing the question, Why won’t you fuck me? It may even sound that I feel entitled to their desire. Wouldn’t it be lovely to have fucking be a human right? Alas, it’s not, and it cannot be. Desire is not enforceable, nor can it conform to our politics."

^ This is the most male thing I've ever seen... Women are still fighting for the right to NOT be f*cked.

[–]LasagnaRossa 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This article sure hints that a gay man has written it.

[–]WinoRhino 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

So, I actually read the article by this cock in frock...

"My next victim" "Punchable smile" "Slappable face" I can't imagine why no one would want to sleep with this...dainty little flower with a heart of gold?

[–]Oof_Too_Humid 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah! I had to re-read "punchable smile". What the hell?

[–]MezozoicGay 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Instead, I thirst for the boys who have only ever chased cis girls. It’s these guys who won’t fuck me."

So it is similar to ones that are hunting lesbians only. They do not love men or women, they want that someone who loves specifically vagina to love their penis.

[–]ThisSiteIsUnusable 12 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I never thought I'd say this, but those straight men need to be a lot meaner.

I do think it's kind of funny how this guy's college buddy and current roommate are both very, very careful to not say "Your dick. I don't want to fuck you because you have a dick. And I'm a straight man. And you have a dick."

“I don’t understand how my attraction works,” he typed, “but I guess there are some characteristics/features I’m generally attracted to.”

He added, “Some of which you don’t have.”

Such as a vagina.

“It’s just not something I can put my finger on...I can list things that come to mind…But that doesn’t mean that’s actually why I wouldn’t hook up with you.”

I don't know what kind of steal the roommate is getting on rent, but it can't be worth this. It just can't.

Alex, Chris, and I make clear the slipperiness of arousal. They can’t really explain why they’re not into me. Even when they grasped for solid answers, their desire vaporized into a diffuse cloud of uncertainty.

It's pretty damn clear that Alex and Chris are both well aware of why they're not into him. They're either being gentle with a mentally ill friend they care about, or trying to not set off a narcissistic nutcase, depending how how generous you want to be.

[–]muomo 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Unfortunately" you're not physically hurt??? Why would you want to be hurt physically? Oh yeah, because then it'd be easier to call the man a hateful bigot rather just someone who doesn't want to sleep with you. Sounds like guy was perfectly nice about it, didn't even call them a man, but that still wasn't good enough. Nobody is obligated to sleep with anybody, and you're not owed an explanation on why that is. Funny how transwomen can't get over it when someone doesn't want to sleep with them...just like men.

[–]msteacherlady 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

[#]notallmen like anal. There's the only instance I can get behind that hashtag.

[–][deleted] 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

What in the incel hell did I just read?

[–]Bogos 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Trans girls sexuality may change. Do they mean trans women??? I am not going to start calling these men “girls”

[–]MezozoicGay 10 insightful - 8 fun10 insightful - 7 fun11 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Just a lil' 30 years old girl with beard and donger.

[–]puffball 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I can tell, even in the face of their horrendous writing, that they're really, really trying not to be overtly rapey. To avoid spelling out what their true feelings are - that these men should be required to be attracted to them. Unfortunately, it seeps through the cracks all over the place, including their professions to the contrary, that they are really bitter about not being able to coerce sexual intimacy and attraction from their "crushes".

All that, layered on top of what is just staggering amounts of entitlement and narcissism. Topped off by the hallmarks of all the worst of male socialization and resulting thinking.

And yet, in this day and age, I suppose I ought to be thankful that they are at least TRYING, no matter how badly they fail.

[–]spinningIntelligence 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh my god, I legitimately thought that article was a parody. Is it not?

[–]wecandobetter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

ALMOST self aware. So close.A t least he admits that lust isn't legislatable.

[–]dandeliondynasty 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If you’re predatory enough to go around demanding why people won’t fuck you, you’ve already answered your own question.

[–]Jekawi 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Is this whole thing satire? Cause it reads like it'd be satire...