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[–]Veneficca 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes and I think it was inevitable. Feminism taught women to raise their standards while many men still subscribe to male supremacism. Our expectations - hers for equality and respect, his for submission - were always going to end in a car crash. Men grow up seeing movies where they're the hero and the pretty girl is the prize. Their fathers and grandfathers were CEOs, senators, chiefs of staff while the only woman in the room was the secretary. Now they're adults and their female peers are out-achieving them, they may have to answer to a female boss, and they have to make themselves attractive to get a partner - because women don't need them for economic survival anymore.

No surprise that they show a growing bitterness and hostility toward women. Men feel cheated. Internet culture has allowed them to marinate in misogynist myths and porn has given them even more unrealistic expectations. They can never say "I'm wrong" so they double down on blaming women when their strategies fail. I have male relatives in their 20s who live in a fantasy world (all women have to do is complain about being complimented and a man will lose his job; all women are gold-diggers who use men for expensive dinners and stealing their husband's assets in divorce court, etc) and they simply will not listen to facts, statistics or the real people/situations around them. Their fantasy world is too attractive to their egos.

I don't know the solution. It's going to get worse before it gets better. This will change only when men realize it's hurting themselves - they don't care if something hurts women.