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[–]100_percent_truth 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Just be super tactful at all times. Having XY chromosomes isn't an identity- gender is a social construct which can only be described using stereotypical traits. Maybe act dumb about it, like...I don't get it, so femle gender is just feeling like a woman and wearing dresses? What about butch lesbians? Or just don't engage whatsoever. Graduating is much more important I promise. But know there will at least be a few who think like you.

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I agree about the tactful thing. We want to win the war, not the battle. It won't do you any good to get cancelled over this. You don't know if your professor will hold this over you or if your classmates will refuse to work with you. In that case, keep emailed notes and tell someone and if they give you unfair grading later or they label you as a troublemaker you have a paper trail. I hope you have your own support circle in college. Since you've already outed yourself, the safest course of action would be to just leave it as everyone has the right to their own opinion and refrain from saying anything else when that topic arises.

Just know that you're in the right. It's disrespectful to tell a woman that her womanhood is an identity that can be assumed especially by a male. Or that kindness means she has to consider abstract male feelings in her every action and thought lest they offend a male or make them feel unsafe.