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[–]gparmesan 35 insightful - 2 fun35 insightful - 1 fun36 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Yes. Yes, yes, yes. While I still talk about the TRAs I have to recognize it for what can become.. more emotional labor spent on males

My arrival at GC had nothing to do with the trans issue but about motherhood for me.. for the first time I needed to feel female strength and power, and I found that the feminism I had learned had been watered down, made palatable, friendly, and useless. I was looking for discussions about imbalance of power in work/life for women, the need for childcare and respect for women in the workforce, a true functioning healthcare system that worked for women and girls. I wanted to talk about issues like maternity leave- of which I received very, very little- which were now fusty, boring, old issues from second wavers. Except the part where they remain unsolved and continue to shape women’s lives. (Obviously I am coming from a very American perspective here). So I am on board, I hear you.

Returning to GC communities was the moment I was waiting for, to find where all the actual feminists had ended up. They’re the cancelled witches now? Perfection. That’s how I know it’s the real thing. Let’s talk about women’s issues and let’s do it without walking on eggshells.

[–]MonstrousRegiment 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes! I want to see more about this. I think that mainstream feminism has failed mothers. Maybe most feminism has. Motherhood is not an experience I'll ever have so my thinking about this isn't well developed. It does seem to me that a lack of serious thinking about mothers is one reason we have trouble getting a lot of women on board as committed feminists. I'd love to see a lot of conversation about feminism and motherhood where there is a commitment to avoiding the "mommy wars".