My primary encounters with transactivism are not reddit. (I don't hang out on the right subs for that)

From the time I became aware of the issue until now:

• a parenting podcast I used to like had one of the mothers trans her own kid
• another podcast I had liked announced that they wanted to increase representation in the all male character list... So they added a TIM
• I had to leave a parenting group I'd joined on Facebook because every fifth post was by one of the two transactivist moms on the oppression suffered by their trans kindergarteners

Thus far, everything I've listed is still solely online interactions, no one I know irl. As of this past year, I started to encounter it irl

• my relative is very involved in feminist activism (like, that's her job). She made a post about periods and had followers comment that her male son could also have a period, if he becomes trans, since trans women have periods exactly like women. She nodded along.
• an in person gaming group I'm in, the person running it (a disabled woman very involved in woke circles) went full tra and I still haven't decided if I need to leave

And that's not to mention what's happening legislatively, in the UK and Canada...

Basically I wish this was just a fringe thing. The problem is it keeps growing. What's happening today would have sounded nuts five years ago.