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[–]usernamezerozero 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I say leave before you become enmeshed with someone who doesn't share your values. I told my husband that this one area where we can't "agree to disagree." I still feel like he is humoring me and secretly thinks he married a transphobe, even though I have articulated my stance and shared a wealth of information. I am deeply entrenched in my marriage/family, so I cannot leave with the same freedom.

[–]sosorreal[S] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I really do appreciate this perspective. I'm going to think long and hard about it. I'm taking a few days off from him to settle down and deal with what's happened here. I feel like I'm being so dramatic, but seeing and experiencing the very real censorship of women has profoundly affected me. I still feel sick, my insides are shaking, and I broke down crying yesterday because I'm just scared, and sad that this is really happening.

[–]jet199 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Frankly there are too many people cutting off loved ones over political arguments at the moment so I won't encourage it. That's what cults do.

I personally think it's very rare for anyone to change their mind in the middle of an argument. People get defensive, this is why he's saying he refuses to research it. His just sticking his heels in. Mostly people rethink after feelings have settled down. So say your piece and leave it.

[–]sosorreal[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

thank you, this is what I have done. I don't want to villianize men and in particular, my man. He's proven he's respectful and sweet otherwise, and conversations since have shown we are both trying to meet more in the middle. Which I think is important for this whole movement -- we have to work together.